Classic Meaning of Soulmates
The concepts of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.
Spiritual Soulmate Concepts
Many religions and spiritual paths believe in reincarnation and the concept of karma. Through reincarnation, soulmates may spend many lifetimes together in past lives. Other spiritual methods of searching for one's soulmate are astrology, numerology, palm reading, personality types, and magic. Modern spritual paths often blend western and eastern philosophies.
Companion Soulmates
These are people that we encounter through their life. These are usually friends, teachers, mentors, or other people who have helped you achieving a life's goal or helped you out of a crisis.
Twin Soulmates
These types of soulmate are your closest friends or a person whom you really click with. According to those who believe in reincarnation, you have already met them in a past life, and in this life you are continuing the relationship. There is an emotional bond between these soulmates and each is able to sense the feelings of each other..
Twin Flame Soulmates
This is the most popular type of soulmate. There is usually one twin flame soulmate for each of us. Twin flame soulmates have spent multiple lifetimes together in past lives. There is incredible chemistry and attraction towards each other. They "complete" each other and only few lucky people are able to find their twin flame soulmate. Twin flame soulmates, if separated, usually suffer enormous pain.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
4 Proven Steps to Find Your Soulmate
by Elena Krasnova
Many people struggle in loneliness or in relationships that are not right for them. Some have given up hope to find that perfect someone. But in reality, that perfect someone, your soulmate, is not that hard to find. Here we will examine steps you can take today to find your soulmate.
1)You need to identify your limiting beliefs about soulmates and relationships in general. For example, if you find yourself thinking, or saying, that relationships are hassle and pain, or that all men are jerks, or that all women are materialistic, or that soulmates are just a fairytale dream, then you are programming your subconscious mind to make all these things happen in your life! Analyze your thoughts and language and replace them with positive statements that will allow you to meet the partner of your dreams.
2)Decide what you want in your soulmate. That's right! You can be as picky as you want. Don't cut yourself short of anything. Write these things down, make a list! The main reason most people don't get what they truly want in a partner, is because they don't really know what they truly want. So, they just attract people by default, and most often those people are not right for them. Be clear on the qualities and characteristics you want in your soulmate.
3)Imagine how you want your perfect relationship to be. Down to the last detail. If you want romance, picture clearly a romantic evening with your future partner. Create the feelings you would feel that evening. Picture exactly how you want your partner to treat you and how you feel about each other. Believe me, this plays a huge part! Do this visualization as often as you can, and try to do it with feeling.
4)Don't get too attached to how and when you will meet your soulmate. Many people do the first 3 steps with perfection, but miss out on this important last one. They do the above exercises religiously, to a point of obsession, frantically asking: "When is my soulmate gonna appear?!" By doing so, they are actually canceling out the above 3 steps! It's important to do the above steps, but at the same time let go of how and when your soulmate will enter your life. Know what you want, but don't become obsessed with it. As soon as you let go, your soulmate will appear when you least expect it.
To find out more about techniques on how to actively find your soulmate, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Many people struggle in loneliness or in relationships that are not right for them. Some have given up hope to find that perfect someone. But in reality, that perfect someone, your soulmate, is not that hard to find. Here we will examine steps you can take today to find your soulmate.
1)You need to identify your limiting beliefs about soulmates and relationships in general. For example, if you find yourself thinking, or saying, that relationships are hassle and pain, or that all men are jerks, or that all women are materialistic, or that soulmates are just a fairytale dream, then you are programming your subconscious mind to make all these things happen in your life! Analyze your thoughts and language and replace them with positive statements that will allow you to meet the partner of your dreams.
2)Decide what you want in your soulmate. That's right! You can be as picky as you want. Don't cut yourself short of anything. Write these things down, make a list! The main reason most people don't get what they truly want in a partner, is because they don't really know what they truly want. So, they just attract people by default, and most often those people are not right for them. Be clear on the qualities and characteristics you want in your soulmate.
3)Imagine how you want your perfect relationship to be. Down to the last detail. If you want romance, picture clearly a romantic evening with your future partner. Create the feelings you would feel that evening. Picture exactly how you want your partner to treat you and how you feel about each other. Believe me, this plays a huge part! Do this visualization as often as you can, and try to do it with feeling.
4)Don't get too attached to how and when you will meet your soulmate. Many people do the first 3 steps with perfection, but miss out on this important last one. They do the above exercises religiously, to a point of obsession, frantically asking: "When is my soulmate gonna appear?!" By doing so, they are actually canceling out the above 3 steps! It's important to do the above steps, but at the same time let go of how and when your soulmate will enter your life. Know what you want, but don't become obsessed with it. As soon as you let go, your soulmate will appear when you least expect it.
To find out more about techniques on how to actively find your soulmate, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Considering Soul Mates
From Stephen Petullo, for About.com
Let Go of the Prince/Princess Charming Syndrome
We are programmed to believe we need to find the one perfect person to meet all of our needs for the rest of our lives. This is impossible, but many still strive for it and then think they "failed" if their expectations aren't met. Distorted idealism and sky-high expectations set you up for disappointment. Stop looking for the soul mate to fulfill your every need for the rest of your life and, instead, be open to soul mates with whom you are compatible and share chemistry.
Reconsider Religious Dogma / Avoid Marrying to Improve a Relationship
(Actual quote from a letter to Stephen and Scott's advice column) "I've been in relationship for 17 years and we are moving in slow motion. We plan on getting married within the next couple months because I feel part of the problem of our stagnation is we are not right with the Lord. I know we love each other but this relationship leaves me feeling so empty most of the time and I feel like I can't seem to leave it." Stephen's Response: I don't believe there is a judging God or that a couple is "living in sin" if they cohabit without marrying. Therefore, the main problem there may be your guilt about something you don`t need to feel guilty about. However, marrying someone to improve a relationship is like gambling to become rich. Most of the time, you will only lose what you had. Marriage can be a wonderful experience, but from what you wrote, it's not appropriate for your situation. Pause, step back and reflect until you become aware of what`s best for you and your partner.
Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You
Do yourself a favor and forgive and release everyone who has ever hurt you. You'll remain trapped until you do. Forgiveness isn't about letting the person who hurt you off the hook. It's about releasing the anger and resentment or guilt that you harbor within, so you can get on with your life. This is an on-going process; every time you think of the person or experience, feel the forgiveness until you mean it. Also, try to think of them as your teachers instead of enemies and ask yourself what you needed to learn from the experience.
Let Go of the Prince/Princess Charming Syndrome
We are programmed to believe we need to find the one perfect person to meet all of our needs for the rest of our lives. This is impossible, but many still strive for it and then think they "failed" if their expectations aren't met. Distorted idealism and sky-high expectations set you up for disappointment. Stop looking for the soul mate to fulfill your every need for the rest of your life and, instead, be open to soul mates with whom you are compatible and share chemistry.
Reconsider Religious Dogma / Avoid Marrying to Improve a Relationship
(Actual quote from a letter to Stephen and Scott's advice column) "I've been in relationship for 17 years and we are moving in slow motion. We plan on getting married within the next couple months because I feel part of the problem of our stagnation is we are not right with the Lord. I know we love each other but this relationship leaves me feeling so empty most of the time and I feel like I can't seem to leave it." Stephen's Response: I don't believe there is a judging God or that a couple is "living in sin" if they cohabit without marrying. Therefore, the main problem there may be your guilt about something you don`t need to feel guilty about. However, marrying someone to improve a relationship is like gambling to become rich. Most of the time, you will only lose what you had. Marriage can be a wonderful experience, but from what you wrote, it's not appropriate for your situation. Pause, step back and reflect until you become aware of what`s best for you and your partner.
Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You
Do yourself a favor and forgive and release everyone who has ever hurt you. You'll remain trapped until you do. Forgiveness isn't about letting the person who hurt you off the hook. It's about releasing the anger and resentment or guilt that you harbor within, so you can get on with your life. This is an on-going process; every time you think of the person or experience, feel the forgiveness until you mean it. Also, try to think of them as your teachers instead of enemies and ask yourself what you needed to learn from the experience.
The Truth About Soul Mates
By Kelly Wallace
This is one of the areas that people ask about the most. Who, what and where is their soul mate? And how to find that person?
The truth is we have more than one soul mate in each life. Thank goodness! Who wants to try and track down that ONE elusive person? Since we have had many lives, we have many soul connections and soul mates. Here are other frequently asked questions about the mate of our soul...
How will I find a soul mate? Never fear about finding your soul mate. You WILL come together. And you have a better chance if you are open to it. Being open to this means that you know you deserve a true love and that you aren't so worried about finding him/her that you actually create a block. Our souls can get rather complicated on us!
How do I know if he/she is my soul mate? This is easier than you think. People often believe that a soul mate union is pure bliss. Not so! A soul mate union is very deep, indeed! But a soul mate will also challenge you, frustrate you, and dig in so deep it feels like a thorn at times. Simply put, it's a person that you can't get out of your system.
So are some soul mate unions actually negative? Nothing having to do with the soul is negative. Everything we go through here on earth in our human form is presented to us so that our souls can learn, love, and grow.
Should I stay with a soul mate who is making me miserable? NEVER! You deserve to be happy and have true love. Just because a soul mate has come into your life and you live in misery doesn't mean you have to stay! You are/were with this person in order to learn something. Believe it or not, many times it's the simple lesson of letting go and raising our self-esteem! And don't forget, they are going through their own soul lessons. If they are stuck in a low place, (anger problems, abuse, addiction, etc.) they are here to learn self-control, love and tolerance, but you shouldn't stick around while they refuse to learn! Once you move on, the lesson is learned and you can now find a more positive relationship. Never stay with anyone who abuses you in ANY way! That is not a soul lesson for you to learn!
How do I attract my soul mate? Our energies reach far and wide and our souls will recognize one another and come together at some point. The main problem that I find is people who crave love so badly that they jump into the first relationship that comes along, stay in it and end up miserable, find someone else before they're even out of that relationship, then they attract more of the same...so on and so on. Our energy is what attracts people to us. If we're in a bad place in our life or feel badly about ourselves, we will attract a person who is attracted to the energy we have at that time. So it's wise to be sure your self-esteem is in a good place and that the energy from your current/previous relationship isn't affecting you.
Kelly Wallace is a certified counselor, multi-published author, teacher, speaker, and radio show host. She's also self-proclaimed workaholic, single mother of five daughters, and a professional psychic who reads for over one thousand clients per year. You can visit her at:
http://www.PsychicReadingsbyDrKelly.com
http://www.KellyWallace.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kelly_Wallace
This is one of the areas that people ask about the most. Who, what and where is their soul mate? And how to find that person?
The truth is we have more than one soul mate in each life. Thank goodness! Who wants to try and track down that ONE elusive person? Since we have had many lives, we have many soul connections and soul mates. Here are other frequently asked questions about the mate of our soul...
How will I find a soul mate? Never fear about finding your soul mate. You WILL come together. And you have a better chance if you are open to it. Being open to this means that you know you deserve a true love and that you aren't so worried about finding him/her that you actually create a block. Our souls can get rather complicated on us!
How do I know if he/she is my soul mate? This is easier than you think. People often believe that a soul mate union is pure bliss. Not so! A soul mate union is very deep, indeed! But a soul mate will also challenge you, frustrate you, and dig in so deep it feels like a thorn at times. Simply put, it's a person that you can't get out of your system.
So are some soul mate unions actually negative? Nothing having to do with the soul is negative. Everything we go through here on earth in our human form is presented to us so that our souls can learn, love, and grow.
Should I stay with a soul mate who is making me miserable? NEVER! You deserve to be happy and have true love. Just because a soul mate has come into your life and you live in misery doesn't mean you have to stay! You are/were with this person in order to learn something. Believe it or not, many times it's the simple lesson of letting go and raising our self-esteem! And don't forget, they are going through their own soul lessons. If they are stuck in a low place, (anger problems, abuse, addiction, etc.) they are here to learn self-control, love and tolerance, but you shouldn't stick around while they refuse to learn! Once you move on, the lesson is learned and you can now find a more positive relationship. Never stay with anyone who abuses you in ANY way! That is not a soul lesson for you to learn!
How do I attract my soul mate? Our energies reach far and wide and our souls will recognize one another and come together at some point. The main problem that I find is people who crave love so badly that they jump into the first relationship that comes along, stay in it and end up miserable, find someone else before they're even out of that relationship, then they attract more of the same...so on and so on. Our energy is what attracts people to us. If we're in a bad place in our life or feel badly about ourselves, we will attract a person who is attracted to the energy we have at that time. So it's wise to be sure your self-esteem is in a good place and that the energy from your current/previous relationship isn't affecting you.
Kelly Wallace is a certified counselor, multi-published author, teacher, speaker, and radio show host. She's also self-proclaimed workaholic, single mother of five daughters, and a professional psychic who reads for over one thousand clients per year. You can visit her at:
http://www.PsychicReadingsbyDrKelly.com
http://www.KellyWallace.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kelly_Wallace
How To Recognize Soul Mate Characteristics in Your Marriage
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com
If you believe in the soul mate concept, there may be times you question your marriage. Here are soul mate characteristics that can be in a marriage.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: varies
Here's How:
1. In order to recognize your soul mate, you must first know yourself.
2. Soul mate marriages can be well balanced, strong, and positive. There should be a lack of intimidation, manipulation, or abuse in a marriage of soul mates. A soul mate should make you feel safe.
3. A relationship with a soul mate is expected to be a natural fit and usually feels like it is meant to be. Even so, every marriage, even a marriage of soul mates, takes the two spouses giving priority to their marriage relationship.
4. A soul mate partner often feels like a mirror to their spouse. Though this does sound a bit boring.
5. A marriage to a soul mate is filled with honesty and support. But then, so are successful marriages of couples who don't believe they are soul mates.
6. There is a sense of familiarity and mutuality in a marriage to a soul mate as well as in long lasting marriages.
7. Soul mate marriages can be healthy, passionate and harmonious. Soul mate partners can easily get a lot done by working together.
8. Couples who are soul mates often take joy in watching the growth of one another.
9. A soul mate will accept who you are, will bring out the best in you, challenge you, and be your best friend. A soul mate will not require you to change. Hopefully, this is true of your spouse -- soul mate or not.
10. Soul mates relish small moments together and cherish their commitment to their marriage. Again -- shouldn't this be a way happy married couples live?
Tips:
1. Be wary of looking for a mate who is ideal and who feels and thinks exactly the way you do. No one can live up to that kind of standard. Soul mates don't agree on everything.
2. Don't use the soul mate concept as an excuse to walk away from your commitment to your marriage.
3. Remember you can still have difficult times even when married to your soul mate. Romance is a gamble. Marriage takes attentiveness.
4. Bottom line: Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage.
If you believe in the soul mate concept, there may be times you question your marriage. Here are soul mate characteristics that can be in a marriage.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: varies
Here's How:
1. In order to recognize your soul mate, you must first know yourself.
2. Soul mate marriages can be well balanced, strong, and positive. There should be a lack of intimidation, manipulation, or abuse in a marriage of soul mates. A soul mate should make you feel safe.
3. A relationship with a soul mate is expected to be a natural fit and usually feels like it is meant to be. Even so, every marriage, even a marriage of soul mates, takes the two spouses giving priority to their marriage relationship.
4. A soul mate partner often feels like a mirror to their spouse. Though this does sound a bit boring.
5. A marriage to a soul mate is filled with honesty and support. But then, so are successful marriages of couples who don't believe they are soul mates.
6. There is a sense of familiarity and mutuality in a marriage to a soul mate as well as in long lasting marriages.
7. Soul mate marriages can be healthy, passionate and harmonious. Soul mate partners can easily get a lot done by working together.
8. Couples who are soul mates often take joy in watching the growth of one another.
9. A soul mate will accept who you are, will bring out the best in you, challenge you, and be your best friend. A soul mate will not require you to change. Hopefully, this is true of your spouse -- soul mate or not.
10. Soul mates relish small moments together and cherish their commitment to their marriage. Again -- shouldn't this be a way happy married couples live?
Tips:
1. Be wary of looking for a mate who is ideal and who feels and thinks exactly the way you do. No one can live up to that kind of standard. Soul mates don't agree on everything.
2. Don't use the soul mate concept as an excuse to walk away from your commitment to your marriage.
3. Remember you can still have difficult times even when married to your soul mate. Romance is a gamble. Marriage takes attentiveness.
4. Bottom line: Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage.
SOUL MATES
The Soul Mate Myth & Challenges in Soul Mate Marriages
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com
The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
However, there are several viewpoints as to how to describe "soul mates" ... even on how to spell it! Some people spell the term as a whole word, soulmate and others, including us, prefer to keep it as two words, soul mate.
Soul Mate Descriptions
* General Belief: Many people believe that soul mates can accept and love every part of the other's personality and that life with a soul mate is easy and natural.
* Our Belief: We don't believe a soul mate is the "ideal or one and only person" in someone's life. Our definition of soul mates is individuals who both want their marriage to be a great one. Their marriage relationship feels like a natural fit. Although they, like all married couples, need to put a priority on their marriage, it is not hard to do because they have a sense of being at ease and connected with one another.
Soul Mate Challenges
If you believe in the idea of only one soul mate for each person, you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times easily. That may not always be the case.
Just because you are in tune to one another, each of you are willing to take responsibility for your role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one -- your marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing.
If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won't be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment. Another danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted.
There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage if you think your spouse isn't your soul mate. If you think that marriage to your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality.
If you think you've not married your soul mate, don't just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can't find your perceived soul mate if you haven't found yourself first.
More Soul Mate Descriptions
* Reincarnation:
Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation. The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
* Other Half:
Others believe, like the ancient Greek philosopher Plato, that a soul mate is a person's "other half". This concept was the basis of the movie, The Butcher's Wife where the idea of "split-aparts" searching for one another was explored. People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with.
* A dictionary definition is:
One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. Someone for whom you have a deep affinity. A person temperamentally suited to another.
* Predestination:
The movie Still Breathing examines the thought that people are drawn together as soul mates by destiny or fate and that being with our soul mate is something we have no control over. This idea of predestination and connection even after death between soul mates was also examined in the movie What Dreams May Come.
* Making Life Come to Life:
Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "
* Profound Connection:
Thomas Moore, in his book Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, page xvii, describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com
The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
However, there are several viewpoints as to how to describe "soul mates" ... even on how to spell it! Some people spell the term as a whole word, soulmate and others, including us, prefer to keep it as two words, soul mate.
Soul Mate Descriptions
* General Belief: Many people believe that soul mates can accept and love every part of the other's personality and that life with a soul mate is easy and natural.
* Our Belief: We don't believe a soul mate is the "ideal or one and only person" in someone's life. Our definition of soul mates is individuals who both want their marriage to be a great one. Their marriage relationship feels like a natural fit. Although they, like all married couples, need to put a priority on their marriage, it is not hard to do because they have a sense of being at ease and connected with one another.
Soul Mate Challenges
If you believe in the idea of only one soul mate for each person, you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times easily. That may not always be the case.
Just because you are in tune to one another, each of you are willing to take responsibility for your role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one -- your marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing.
If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won't be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment. Another danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted.
There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage if you think your spouse isn't your soul mate. If you think that marriage to your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality.
If you think you've not married your soul mate, don't just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can't find your perceived soul mate if you haven't found yourself first.
More Soul Mate Descriptions
* Reincarnation:
Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation. The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
* Other Half:
Others believe, like the ancient Greek philosopher Plato, that a soul mate is a person's "other half". This concept was the basis of the movie, The Butcher's Wife where the idea of "split-aparts" searching for one another was explored. People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with.
* A dictionary definition is:
One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. Someone for whom you have a deep affinity. A person temperamentally suited to another.
* Predestination:
The movie Still Breathing examines the thought that people are drawn together as soul mates by destiny or fate and that being with our soul mate is something we have no control over. This idea of predestination and connection even after death between soul mates was also examined in the movie What Dreams May Come.
* Making Life Come to Life:
Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "
* Profound Connection:
Thomas Moore, in his book Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, page xvii, describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."
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