by Keishia Lee-Louis
Many people believe in love at first site. They believe that in an instant, they will know who they should be with for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations often end in divorce.
On the other hand, some couples spend 10 or 15 years getting to know each other before marriage. They'll live together, make major purchases, and even have children, before making a commitment to get married. Unfortunately, many of these marriages also end in divorce because even though they committed with their heads (and maybe even their hearts) the couple didn't know how to make a soul commitment.
Finally, some people go along being unhappily single. They desire to be married, but they find themselves playing games and dating without setting realistic personal goals for their future.
Maybe you're one of the people I've mentioned above. You're in a relationship (or your waiting for one), and you're wondering, "Is this it? Have I really found my soulmate?"
What if I told you that knowing your soulmate has more to do with knowing who you are and your level of commitment, rather than finding the "perfect match" to complete you?
I bring this up because I came across a book entitled Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? It made me think about how true soulmate relationships are formed: God prepares each individual and brings them to a point where their souls can effectively be knitted together for His purposes.
With this thought in mind, here are three ways for you to recognize your soulmate:
1. The communication between the two of you is transparent. "In his excellent book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?, John Powell describes the five levels of communication: cliche, fact opinion, emotion, and transparency."-- From Starting Your Marriage Right, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
Transparent communication means you and your partner can move beyond the cliches, facts, opinions, and emotions to a level where you are both vulnerable, but where truth prevails in your relationship. Transparency doesn't come quickly for most people, but when it does, freedom is not far behind. Transparency comes only with courage, nonjudgemental attitudes, and most importantly, trust. And this leads me to my next point.
2. You and your soulmate will trust each other completely. That means you don't have to wonder if your loved one is doing something inappropriate, without thought to your wellbeing, or without sound judgment. Trust comes when words and actions line up to form a coherent picture of the person you love.
3. You and your soulmate know the meaning of unconditional love. One may say, "Keishia, how can you believe in such a concept in this day in age? This kind of love never happens in real life." I'm here to say that it does. If you've read some of my other articles, you'll note all of the things that must be stripped from a person's character (selfishness, pride, and jealousy) in order to get there. We can't get there by our own will, but rather by God's grace and by understanding His nature. No matter how hard we try to do it in our own strength and conviction, leaning on divine intervention is the only way to rid ourselves of these three character flaws.
Ultimately successful soulmates aren't just born at some point in time or space to hook up by sheer coincidence. They are made over time to be with each other for a lifetime. If you're wondering where yours is, look inward and upward and you're bound to discover more than what you've seeking.
About the Author
Keishia Lee-Louis is the Editor of http://www.Married4Good.com (Launching November 2005). Her work has appeared on iVillage.com, BibleResourceCenter.com, and in numerous other publications. Currently, she is writing a book on marriage and relationships(Spring 2006). If you'd like to see more of her work, visit http://married4good.blogspot.com
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Soulmates how attraction works
by By Mabel Iam
When I find my soulmate Ill feel free. When our bodies come together, the pleasure well feel will be boundless. On that day my soul will recognize, at last, the other wing of love.
Union or reunion?
Two like souls will inevitably attract themselves like magnets, and although finding the ideal partner is said to be hard, we do experience this marvelous phenomenon at least once in our lifetime. In fact, the encounter usually takes place well before the actual discovery of the other individual. Normally, we have experienced this union unknowingly, because affinity is usually so subtle that our ego cannot recognize the presence of that other part of our being.
Levels of soul union
Each human being undergoes this marvelous event at different energy levels: 1. The first level is spiritual: This level is reached when soulmates are internally prepared to meet. Both parts feel utterly whole and if the union is spiritual, chances are that they will never part.
2. The second level is intellectual: The souls are compatible at the level of thought, they bear similarities and have common projects to share.
3. The third level is emotional: From the very first meeting, intense affinity and a feeling of having met before will take over. This is the level at which soulmates fall in love more easily. The surrender is complete and balanced.
4. The fourth level is physical or erotic: Physical surrender and boundless passion: during intercourse, intense and endless hugs and kisses will be shared and the physical contact will really make the two souls feel at home. At an erotic level, soulmates discover from the very beginning that their mate knows their body to perfection. They will caress and kiss as if they were one whole body and their encounters will seem to be taking place beyond space and time, because both feel that they are transported to a different dimension.
The sensation of freedom and flight while they make love is sublime, they will feel they can actually reach out for heaven. Without this last physical level, soulmates cannot really recognize each other as mates. This is because the other levels are related to unconditional love, which can manifest itself as a lasting friendship, or a special affinity between two people, and where a stable or unstable physical relationship is unnecessary. Personality traits, spiritual development or the knowledge each soul has of itself or the other will condition this type of bonding.
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About the Author
Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers in diffe
When I find my soulmate Ill feel free. When our bodies come together, the pleasure well feel will be boundless. On that day my soul will recognize, at last, the other wing of love.
Union or reunion?
Two like souls will inevitably attract themselves like magnets, and although finding the ideal partner is said to be hard, we do experience this marvelous phenomenon at least once in our lifetime. In fact, the encounter usually takes place well before the actual discovery of the other individual. Normally, we have experienced this union unknowingly, because affinity is usually so subtle that our ego cannot recognize the presence of that other part of our being.
Levels of soul union
Each human being undergoes this marvelous event at different energy levels: 1. The first level is spiritual: This level is reached when soulmates are internally prepared to meet. Both parts feel utterly whole and if the union is spiritual, chances are that they will never part.
2. The second level is intellectual: The souls are compatible at the level of thought, they bear similarities and have common projects to share.
3. The third level is emotional: From the very first meeting, intense affinity and a feeling of having met before will take over. This is the level at which soulmates fall in love more easily. The surrender is complete and balanced.
4. The fourth level is physical or erotic: Physical surrender and boundless passion: during intercourse, intense and endless hugs and kisses will be shared and the physical contact will really make the two souls feel at home. At an erotic level, soulmates discover from the very beginning that their mate knows their body to perfection. They will caress and kiss as if they were one whole body and their encounters will seem to be taking place beyond space and time, because both feel that they are transported to a different dimension.
The sensation of freedom and flight while they make love is sublime, they will feel they can actually reach out for heaven. Without this last physical level, soulmates cannot really recognize each other as mates. This is because the other levels are related to unconditional love, which can manifest itself as a lasting friendship, or a special affinity between two people, and where a stable or unstable physical relationship is unnecessary. Personality traits, spiritual development or the knowledge each soul has of itself or the other will condition this type of bonding.
http://www.mabeliam.com/
http://www.sexandtheperfectlover.com/ <
About the Author
Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers in diffe
The Soulmate Concept in Metaphysics
by Ashutosh Agnihotri
Astrology is a metaphysical science. The answers one would get from it comes from within a metaphysical framework of living. This must first be acknowledged before one applies its answers into ordinary living, such as the concept of love.
Life is about learning. Each individual soul would have set its own agenda for resolution and excellence. It has drawn up dramas to act out to achieve its betterment goals. And in many of these dramas, some scenes are designed best to be acted out with certain chosen actors already known; co-lead actors due to past chemistry or familiarity, or just because of previous working experience together.
Many of these genderless souls travel together through incarnational dramas, moving together forward, backward, and onward through time, just so they could learn together. Some kind of symbiosis bonds them into a learning group. They are driven to work together again and again, learning best when together, feeding power and purpose between each other, every time. They remind, goad, and share, empathically. These are soulmates. But sometimes, a soulmate may be the cause of challenges and pain, just as they can be our sweetest solution. Check out your 6th house of adversaries. They might be your major obstruction that can bring out the best in you.
A soulmate pushes you into betterment in areas you are not polished in, but must necessarily undergo for future excellence. It does that because you need to be reminded. Soulmates made an early contract to be there for each other, probably not to bail us out, but to be there to remind us of what more we can do. Soulmates do peer coaching.
The very people who have been a deep source of pain or joy, the very people who continue to be with you through thick and thin, these are your soul families, your soul mates, who have been with you through millennia. Look at them tonight when they sleep beside you, look with your inner eye, and reflect on what they have taught you. Open your understanding to the lessons they have taught you about yourself. See their purposes in your life and understand why they did what they did to you. Did you see the essentials behind the experiences and build new forward tracks, or did you just re-live the experiences and remained in the same spot?
You don't need to know your soul-mate that you think will take away all your pains and give you that elusive nirvanic joy. What you need is to work with the souls around you. These soulmates are real. Check their presence in your horoscope.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
Astrology is a metaphysical science. The answers one would get from it comes from within a metaphysical framework of living. This must first be acknowledged before one applies its answers into ordinary living, such as the concept of love.
Life is about learning. Each individual soul would have set its own agenda for resolution and excellence. It has drawn up dramas to act out to achieve its betterment goals. And in many of these dramas, some scenes are designed best to be acted out with certain chosen actors already known; co-lead actors due to past chemistry or familiarity, or just because of previous working experience together.
Many of these genderless souls travel together through incarnational dramas, moving together forward, backward, and onward through time, just so they could learn together. Some kind of symbiosis bonds them into a learning group. They are driven to work together again and again, learning best when together, feeding power and purpose between each other, every time. They remind, goad, and share, empathically. These are soulmates. But sometimes, a soulmate may be the cause of challenges and pain, just as they can be our sweetest solution. Check out your 6th house of adversaries. They might be your major obstruction that can bring out the best in you.
A soulmate pushes you into betterment in areas you are not polished in, but must necessarily undergo for future excellence. It does that because you need to be reminded. Soulmates made an early contract to be there for each other, probably not to bail us out, but to be there to remind us of what more we can do. Soulmates do peer coaching.
The very people who have been a deep source of pain or joy, the very people who continue to be with you through thick and thin, these are your soul families, your soul mates, who have been with you through millennia. Look at them tonight when they sleep beside you, look with your inner eye, and reflect on what they have taught you. Open your understanding to the lessons they have taught you about yourself. See their purposes in your life and understand why they did what they did to you. Did you see the essentials behind the experiences and build new forward tracks, or did you just re-live the experiences and remained in the same spot?
You don't need to know your soul-mate that you think will take away all your pains and give you that elusive nirvanic joy. What you need is to work with the souls around you. These soulmates are real. Check their presence in your horoscope.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
The Soulmate Concept in Astrology
by Ashuosh Agnihotri
The astrological answer to finding your soulmate from the horoscope is found where the biggest lessons come from deepest relationships. Clues to your soulmate/s may be found in the intimacies of your 7th house, in the romances of your 5th, and even in the gratifications of the 8th. Aside from that, one of the base factors is to consider respective Venus placements, one of the many but simple considerations in the soul-matching matrix.
Imagine a female chart with Venus in Gemini, and a male chart with Venus in Capricorn. This almost promises a fundamental emotional incompatibility. Where she needs her playful love with a preference for variety, loves her quickies, he instead prefers to take his time, be systematic about it, devoted, and probably even philosophize it. So what do they do?
First, he should know about her Venus in Gemini, and she should know about his Venus in Capricorn. They need to understand why they made the choice of placing their respective Venuses there when they designed their incarnational 'tour of duty'. They should understand how these energies will express themselves. What did they need to resolve within themselves, and with each other? Why did they decide to be together when their Venus positions appear so divergent?
The Venus positions alone do not promise 'incompatibility'. They just promise being 'different'.
They have a choice not to submit to the effects of the incongruence of that 'difference'. They have a choice to learn to enjoy the varieties of that 'difference'. They have a choice of learning to 'give space'; a dire lesson brought by that difference. To understand their respective preferences by these positions requires communication, understanding and the ever-crucial compromise in order not to lose the integrities of their souls. The 'difference' is just a 'learning platform'. Soulmates need to serve the differential. They need to work-out, together, on what to do in order to fill the void made by that difference.
The people who participate intimately in the pains and joys of your life are some of the most intimate souls from your inner "learning group". They can be of either gender, and the connection doesn't even have to be sexual. Forget the grandeur of an exotic partner from the other side of the world. That great soul-mate could be right beside you right now, and it probably might not know its status in your life because it is similarly warped in its own agenda. It's also probably yearning for its own soulmate. Of course, your 'true' soul-mate can also be an exotic partner from the other side of the world, but don't miss working out with these soulmates in your sphere right now. The contract is as real.
Find the differences. Bridge the gap. Chances are, every soul around you is a 'mate'.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
The astrological answer to finding your soulmate from the horoscope is found where the biggest lessons come from deepest relationships. Clues to your soulmate/s may be found in the intimacies of your 7th house, in the romances of your 5th, and even in the gratifications of the 8th. Aside from that, one of the base factors is to consider respective Venus placements, one of the many but simple considerations in the soul-matching matrix.
Imagine a female chart with Venus in Gemini, and a male chart with Venus in Capricorn. This almost promises a fundamental emotional incompatibility. Where she needs her playful love with a preference for variety, loves her quickies, he instead prefers to take his time, be systematic about it, devoted, and probably even philosophize it. So what do they do?
First, he should know about her Venus in Gemini, and she should know about his Venus in Capricorn. They need to understand why they made the choice of placing their respective Venuses there when they designed their incarnational 'tour of duty'. They should understand how these energies will express themselves. What did they need to resolve within themselves, and with each other? Why did they decide to be together when their Venus positions appear so divergent?
The Venus positions alone do not promise 'incompatibility'. They just promise being 'different'.
They have a choice not to submit to the effects of the incongruence of that 'difference'. They have a choice to learn to enjoy the varieties of that 'difference'. They have a choice of learning to 'give space'; a dire lesson brought by that difference. To understand their respective preferences by these positions requires communication, understanding and the ever-crucial compromise in order not to lose the integrities of their souls. The 'difference' is just a 'learning platform'. Soulmates need to serve the differential. They need to work-out, together, on what to do in order to fill the void made by that difference.
The people who participate intimately in the pains and joys of your life are some of the most intimate souls from your inner "learning group". They can be of either gender, and the connection doesn't even have to be sexual. Forget the grandeur of an exotic partner from the other side of the world. That great soul-mate could be right beside you right now, and it probably might not know its status in your life because it is similarly warped in its own agenda. It's also probably yearning for its own soulmate. Of course, your 'true' soul-mate can also be an exotic partner from the other side of the world, but don't miss working out with these soulmates in your sphere right now. The contract is as real.
Find the differences. Bridge the gap. Chances are, every soul around you is a 'mate'.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
Finding Your Soulmate
by Arielle Ford
I struggled for many years before I discovered a little known approach to success that turned my world upside down. I soon became one of the top book publicists in the nation with clients like Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsch, Dean Ornish, Jon Gordon, Gary Zukav, Louise Hay, Jack Canfield andMark Victor Hansen of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame. Although my business career was a huge success, I soon realized that, my personal life was a disaster.
I was 40 years old, unmarried and all my dates turned out to be frogs. But then something very enlightening happened to me. I was standing in a bookstore looking over all the books on love and dating when I came upon a book on soulmates. I picked it up and started to read it. It explained how to know when you have met your soulmate and the wonderful feelings and vibrations you experience to tell you that you've indeed attracted the love of your life.
And then I thought, What if I used that success secret I cherished and used for so many years-the one secret that led to my wonderful success in business and I used it to attract a soulmate"?
And that is what I did. The frogs stopped coming around, a dashingly handsome man appeared in a last-minute business meeting and in days I knew I had met my soulmate. We got married six months after we met. Ten years later, I am still in absolute heaven.
As someone who didn't meet and marry my soulmate until I was 44, I learned a lot along the way about what does and doesn't work in the world of love and romance. Finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you're willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don't believe you will ever find the ONE, then guess what? You get to be right you probably won't. If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is also looking for you, then true love can be yours.
Creating the Soulmate Kit was my way of documenting the process I used so I could share the secrets with others. It's also a way for me to provide hope for those who feel hopeless in the area of romance. You may be unconsciously blocking your soulmate from coming into your life. The Soulmate Kit has been created to help you remove these blocks and guide you to prepare to manifest your soulmate.
About the Author
Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com.
I struggled for many years before I discovered a little known approach to success that turned my world upside down. I soon became one of the top book publicists in the nation with clients like Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsch, Dean Ornish, Jon Gordon, Gary Zukav, Louise Hay, Jack Canfield andMark Victor Hansen of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame. Although my business career was a huge success, I soon realized that, my personal life was a disaster.
I was 40 years old, unmarried and all my dates turned out to be frogs. But then something very enlightening happened to me. I was standing in a bookstore looking over all the books on love and dating when I came upon a book on soulmates. I picked it up and started to read it. It explained how to know when you have met your soulmate and the wonderful feelings and vibrations you experience to tell you that you've indeed attracted the love of your life.
And then I thought, What if I used that success secret I cherished and used for so many years-the one secret that led to my wonderful success in business and I used it to attract a soulmate"?
And that is what I did. The frogs stopped coming around, a dashingly handsome man appeared in a last-minute business meeting and in days I knew I had met my soulmate. We got married six months after we met. Ten years later, I am still in absolute heaven.
As someone who didn't meet and marry my soulmate until I was 44, I learned a lot along the way about what does and doesn't work in the world of love and romance. Finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you're willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don't believe you will ever find the ONE, then guess what? You get to be right you probably won't. If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is also looking for you, then true love can be yours.
Creating the Soulmate Kit was my way of documenting the process I used so I could share the secrets with others. It's also a way for me to provide hope for those who feel hopeless in the area of romance. You may be unconsciously blocking your soulmate from coming into your life. The Soulmate Kit has been created to help you remove these blocks and guide you to prepare to manifest your soulmate.
About the Author
Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com.
Do Soulmates Exist? - A look Into Scarcity Mindset
by Christian Thorne
Many men use the idea of having a soul mate as a comfort tool. They believe that one day they'll meet that special someone and all of their dating and relationship problems will magically disappear. This is a terrible way of thinking.
Scarcity Mindset
Men who have few options with women have what is called a Scarcity Mindset. This limited mindset causes men to hold false beliefs and inhibit bad behavior toward the women they choose. A man who feels he has limited choices will easily obsess and/or attach himself to the few women he meets. Lets explore this further.
The Fantasy Of "The One"
Society pours the idea down your throat that there is only one person out there for you. They call them "the one", "soul mates", "twin flame", or any other ridiculous name. These things are about as real as Santa Claus, Tooth Fairies, and Leprechauns, yet so many people like to fantasize that they are real.
The truth is there is not one person you are meant for. Holding this belief only holds you back from seeing the truth and having real options in your dating life. Sure some women are more "compatible" for you than others, but with over 3 billion women on this planet to choose from if you're still thinking there's only one for you, you are only limiting yourself.
People like to convince themselves that they've found a soul mate when they've made poor choices with who they date then all of a sudden someone comes along that they actually have things in common with and because they've never experienced this before they call them their "soul mate".
Thinking that you can't feel the same way about any other person is a false belief. That's great that you were able to establish a strong bond with one woman but to think you can't feel that same way about another woman is completely false. This type of mentality keeps people from moving on after relationships. It keeps them from getting out of bad relationships they should have never been in in the first place!
Be Complete On Your Own
We've all heard the other suck up false belief, "you complete me". Men and women who are looking for someone to complete them are only hiding the fact from themselves that they don't feel complete as a person on their own.
You need to find yourself and be completely satisfied with who you are, don't try to find yourself in another person. You need to have more going on for you than her. Think about how unattractive that is to have nothing going on for yourself than her.
The moment you make her the center of who you are you lose the very thing that made her attracted to you. She was likely attracted to you for who you were and all the interesting things about you. Now if what you have going on for yourself is her, she will not be attracted to you.
This mentality will make you start to get needy toward her. You might subconsciously start sucking up to her. You might seek her approval as if she's better than you. She will quickly pick up on these queues and lose attraction for you.
Learn To See Abundance
Once you learn to see abundance in the women you have to choose from it will open up a whole new world of opportunity for your dating life. You will never come from a "take what you can get" mind frame. You will see a ton of choice and will allow yourself to become choosy.
Guys often settle for someone they don't actually want. When you're with a woman and you are going to be exclusive with her ask your self, "If I could be with anyone I wanted, no matter what, would I choose this woman". If the answer is no, you have made the wrong decision.
If you're the type that's only taken what he can get you likely don't know what you want. Sure you should have a basic idea of what type of women you prefer, but you don't really know what you want unless you've experienced a lot of different women. You might realize the type you think you want might turn out to not be right for you once you've dated that type.
There are a lot of women who also have Scarcity Mindset, but beautiful women do not. They have tons of men to choose from and they know it. They cannot relate to a man who doesn't also see abundance. Women are attracted to men who are choosers, not men who wait to be chosen.
People are often scared to get out of relationships that they know aren't right for them because they are scared that they won't find someone else. It is important that you make being an attractive man a part of your identity and you are able keep that identity and still see abundance even in a relationship.
This will allow you to make healthier relationship decisions for yourself. If you decide that a relationship is not good for you it is easier to walk away knowing that you can get another woman rather than staying and creating an unhealthy situation for both of you because you lack the ability to see abundance.
You must believe there is abundance to receive abundance because once you believe your thoughts and actions will cause behavior that will allow it. Use this new mindset to allow you to not be needy or care about the outcome of any interaction. Be willing to walk away from all interactions.
Picking a mate is a big deal so be choosy. Keep your options open and get experienced. Whoever you do choose will be grateful because you're a man with options and you chose her!
If you'd like to learn more dating tips and techniques on how to attract women into your life head over to FactorsOfAttraction.com
About the Author
Christian Throne has helped thousands of men reach their goals of having happy healthy relationships with women through one on one coaching and his best selling book Factors of Attraction that teaches men how to effortlessly attract and date beautiful women.
Many men use the idea of having a soul mate as a comfort tool. They believe that one day they'll meet that special someone and all of their dating and relationship problems will magically disappear. This is a terrible way of thinking.
Scarcity Mindset
Men who have few options with women have what is called a Scarcity Mindset. This limited mindset causes men to hold false beliefs and inhibit bad behavior toward the women they choose. A man who feels he has limited choices will easily obsess and/or attach himself to the few women he meets. Lets explore this further.
The Fantasy Of "The One"
Society pours the idea down your throat that there is only one person out there for you. They call them "the one", "soul mates", "twin flame", or any other ridiculous name. These things are about as real as Santa Claus, Tooth Fairies, and Leprechauns, yet so many people like to fantasize that they are real.
The truth is there is not one person you are meant for. Holding this belief only holds you back from seeing the truth and having real options in your dating life. Sure some women are more "compatible" for you than others, but with over 3 billion women on this planet to choose from if you're still thinking there's only one for you, you are only limiting yourself.
People like to convince themselves that they've found a soul mate when they've made poor choices with who they date then all of a sudden someone comes along that they actually have things in common with and because they've never experienced this before they call them their "soul mate".
Thinking that you can't feel the same way about any other person is a false belief. That's great that you were able to establish a strong bond with one woman but to think you can't feel that same way about another woman is completely false. This type of mentality keeps people from moving on after relationships. It keeps them from getting out of bad relationships they should have never been in in the first place!
Be Complete On Your Own
We've all heard the other suck up false belief, "you complete me". Men and women who are looking for someone to complete them are only hiding the fact from themselves that they don't feel complete as a person on their own.
You need to find yourself and be completely satisfied with who you are, don't try to find yourself in another person. You need to have more going on for you than her. Think about how unattractive that is to have nothing going on for yourself than her.
The moment you make her the center of who you are you lose the very thing that made her attracted to you. She was likely attracted to you for who you were and all the interesting things about you. Now if what you have going on for yourself is her, she will not be attracted to you.
This mentality will make you start to get needy toward her. You might subconsciously start sucking up to her. You might seek her approval as if she's better than you. She will quickly pick up on these queues and lose attraction for you.
Learn To See Abundance
Once you learn to see abundance in the women you have to choose from it will open up a whole new world of opportunity for your dating life. You will never come from a "take what you can get" mind frame. You will see a ton of choice and will allow yourself to become choosy.
Guys often settle for someone they don't actually want. When you're with a woman and you are going to be exclusive with her ask your self, "If I could be with anyone I wanted, no matter what, would I choose this woman". If the answer is no, you have made the wrong decision.
If you're the type that's only taken what he can get you likely don't know what you want. Sure you should have a basic idea of what type of women you prefer, but you don't really know what you want unless you've experienced a lot of different women. You might realize the type you think you want might turn out to not be right for you once you've dated that type.
There are a lot of women who also have Scarcity Mindset, but beautiful women do not. They have tons of men to choose from and they know it. They cannot relate to a man who doesn't also see abundance. Women are attracted to men who are choosers, not men who wait to be chosen.
People are often scared to get out of relationships that they know aren't right for them because they are scared that they won't find someone else. It is important that you make being an attractive man a part of your identity and you are able keep that identity and still see abundance even in a relationship.
This will allow you to make healthier relationship decisions for yourself. If you decide that a relationship is not good for you it is easier to walk away knowing that you can get another woman rather than staying and creating an unhealthy situation for both of you because you lack the ability to see abundance.
You must believe there is abundance to receive abundance because once you believe your thoughts and actions will cause behavior that will allow it. Use this new mindset to allow you to not be needy or care about the outcome of any interaction. Be willing to walk away from all interactions.
Picking a mate is a big deal so be choosy. Keep your options open and get experienced. Whoever you do choose will be grateful because you're a man with options and you chose her!
If you'd like to learn more dating tips and techniques on how to attract women into your life head over to FactorsOfAttraction.com
About the Author
Christian Throne has helped thousands of men reach their goals of having happy healthy relationships with women through one on one coaching and his best selling book Factors of Attraction that teaches men how to effortlessly attract and date beautiful women.
Attracting Your Soulmate
by Russ Michael
See, taste, smell, hear, touch, intuit or think! All seven of these fine, ordinary and extraordinary sensory perceptions are what constitute your and my "world" reality! We all live in a huge vibrational universe.
If you choose you may call this vast, unlimited pulsating field of All That Is by other signatures or names like God, Universal Mind, Brahma, The One Source, or a host of very sacred names or divinely inspired metaphors like those conceived of by Annalee Skarin who wrote her eight classic and revelatory books with her "pen dipped in heaven"! The truth remains. We are immersed in, engulfed in, surrounded by, held sacredly by and mortally alive with a vast nonstop vibrational field. Our very thoughts are the most powerful vibratory universal pulsations that exist! Our every movement of body, mind, soul and spirit is inspired or motivated by VIBRATION.
Try to think of what is not pulsating or vibrating at some level in our entire local or planetary, solar, cosmic or universal spectrum level! What is not alive with motion - even if our finite human senses or so delicate and so very sensitive 20th century scientific instruments cannot detect it? Can SOULMATES detect it?
We are now sophisticated enough to know Universal Laws dictate or govern every impact or vibrational fusion or explosion. Absolutely nothing happens by "accident" for the Vibrational universe keeps in perfect track of every micro-moment of every minus or plus "intent" or "event" in time - or in space!
In some not yet publicly known fashion or means, this immense vibrational Universe (not one word, one sentence but ONE verse) you and I are "part and parcel" of always moves back toward a ZERO universal state! Nothing can move 'back' and 'toward' at the same time. Consider *. This indicates that all sound or any movement of any wave or particle within this great universe arises from out of an absolutely still or motionless void. The flat line becomes a complex line, wave and particle.
If "something' can come out of 'nothing"- surely then SOULMATES- even now swimming blindly through this grand ocean of infinite vibration - ought to be able to then mentally or physically reach out to find that "special someone" who is her or his vibrational match!
Before you have finished your journey through the vibrational paths, trails or halls of knowledge in this book, you ought to know enough about vibrations - how to summon them and how to still or free yourself of unwanted ones - to attract not only a SOULMATE but whatever else you may want to experience in your daily life stream. The more you know about how and why vibrations work - the quicker and the more effective you personally will be in your "vibrational creativity"!
You, like your Creator, are also fully and freely able to be a consciously deliberate creator. You were innately gifted with the creative ability of a god or goddess! The world you live in right at this very moment in your three-dimensional reality was created totally and entirely by you- by deliberate design or by default! You did it.
If that world is not the kind of a world that you now want to inhabit, for creators can change their minds, * "Ye are Gods"-Devorss & Co., then simply go forward in this moment and change it! Offer the Universe a different vibration that matches what you now know what you want. Change your vibration -and your new vibration field will attract and move you into fresh and so very exciting new physical and spiritual realities.
Of these - certainly the foremost new vibrational desire can be the strong and very deliberate summoning of your SOULMATE.
About the Author
Russ Michael is the author of the revolutionary Finding Your Soulmate and introduced the concept of "soulmates" to the world in 1970. This article is the first chapter from his upcoming release Handbook for Soulmates.
See, taste, smell, hear, touch, intuit or think! All seven of these fine, ordinary and extraordinary sensory perceptions are what constitute your and my "world" reality! We all live in a huge vibrational universe.
If you choose you may call this vast, unlimited pulsating field of All That Is by other signatures or names like God, Universal Mind, Brahma, The One Source, or a host of very sacred names or divinely inspired metaphors like those conceived of by Annalee Skarin who wrote her eight classic and revelatory books with her "pen dipped in heaven"! The truth remains. We are immersed in, engulfed in, surrounded by, held sacredly by and mortally alive with a vast nonstop vibrational field. Our very thoughts are the most powerful vibratory universal pulsations that exist! Our every movement of body, mind, soul and spirit is inspired or motivated by VIBRATION.
Try to think of what is not pulsating or vibrating at some level in our entire local or planetary, solar, cosmic or universal spectrum level! What is not alive with motion - even if our finite human senses or so delicate and so very sensitive 20th century scientific instruments cannot detect it? Can SOULMATES detect it?
We are now sophisticated enough to know Universal Laws dictate or govern every impact or vibrational fusion or explosion. Absolutely nothing happens by "accident" for the Vibrational universe keeps in perfect track of every micro-moment of every minus or plus "intent" or "event" in time - or in space!
In some not yet publicly known fashion or means, this immense vibrational Universe (not one word, one sentence but ONE verse) you and I are "part and parcel" of always moves back toward a ZERO universal state! Nothing can move 'back' and 'toward' at the same time. Consider *. This indicates that all sound or any movement of any wave or particle within this great universe arises from out of an absolutely still or motionless void. The flat line becomes a complex line, wave and particle.
If "something' can come out of 'nothing"- surely then SOULMATES- even now swimming blindly through this grand ocean of infinite vibration - ought to be able to then mentally or physically reach out to find that "special someone" who is her or his vibrational match!
Before you have finished your journey through the vibrational paths, trails or halls of knowledge in this book, you ought to know enough about vibrations - how to summon them and how to still or free yourself of unwanted ones - to attract not only a SOULMATE but whatever else you may want to experience in your daily life stream. The more you know about how and why vibrations work - the quicker and the more effective you personally will be in your "vibrational creativity"!
You, like your Creator, are also fully and freely able to be a consciously deliberate creator. You were innately gifted with the creative ability of a god or goddess! The world you live in right at this very moment in your three-dimensional reality was created totally and entirely by you- by deliberate design or by default! You did it.
If that world is not the kind of a world that you now want to inhabit, for creators can change their minds, * "Ye are Gods"-Devorss & Co., then simply go forward in this moment and change it! Offer the Universe a different vibration that matches what you now know what you want. Change your vibration -and your new vibration field will attract and move you into fresh and so very exciting new physical and spiritual realities.
Of these - certainly the foremost new vibrational desire can be the strong and very deliberate summoning of your SOULMATE.
About the Author
Russ Michael is the author of the revolutionary Finding Your Soulmate and introduced the concept of "soulmates" to the world in 1970. This article is the first chapter from his upcoming release Handbook for Soulmates.
Is The Law of Attraction Broken? How do I Find My Soulmate When I Can't Even Get a Date!
by Tanya Haden Tebb
Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals. Orison Swett Marden
Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can't find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? Do you wish you really knew how to attract men. If you do, ask yourself this: Why haven't you found him yet? And, while you're flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this;
The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because that's what it's made up of. People attract other people who are 'made up' of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.
So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you want like money, power, and confidence? Even the things you don't want like debt, conflict, or poor self image? How about love? Do you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let's explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.
When you're chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like "I'm never going to find my Mr. Right," or "There must be something wrong with me," or "I hate dating," or "My one true love must not exist," or "I don't believe in soulmates."? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you haven't found your true love yet? Or, do you think they're totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you'll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, it's time for a reality check!
Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn't think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the 'man magnet' you're casting out into the world?
Still skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Don't worry; you're absolutely right: A man *will* appear. He'll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesn't make your life miserable right away, he'll at least keep you from finding somebody better - for a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn't changed, the next man you'll attract isn't going to be Mr. Wrong, he's going to be Mr. Really Wrong!
You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that you're asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!
Now, you're in a real pickle because you've got what you asked for, but it's not what you want. When you state "I don't want this or that" and "I don't need such and such," it's exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you just can't get a break, why everybody else is falling in love but me, and you're left to wallow in the idea that you're going to grow old alone. If this is how you feel, you're not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don't know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.
But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize it doesn't care one way or the other if you're happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of "I sure hope she finds her dream man this time!" If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.
Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.
You might be asking yourself, "Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys?" or "Hey, I don't even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started?" I'm glad you asked!
You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:
1. Define the type of relationship you want
"I want to meet the man of my dreams," isn't going to cut it. If you want to know how to attract men to you, you are going to have to be specific (e.g., "I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park." or "I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes." or "I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh").
2. How does this man treat you?
(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day.)
3. How does it feel when you are with him?
(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter.)
4. What does he look like?
(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles.)
5. What does he do for fun?
(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel.)
6. Where will you meet this man?
(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club.)
7. How will you know you've found him?
(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance.)
When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him, even taste him!
Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilled and it really is! The universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.
Don't believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn't it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within and "snap" start attracting your perfect man now?
About the Author
Author of How To Attract Men: The Goddess Secrets for women ready to discover what men really want from women and ready to learn all the most coveted secrets on how to attract men.
Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals. Orison Swett Marden
Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can't find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? Do you wish you really knew how to attract men. If you do, ask yourself this: Why haven't you found him yet? And, while you're flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this;
The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because that's what it's made up of. People attract other people who are 'made up' of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.
So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you want like money, power, and confidence? Even the things you don't want like debt, conflict, or poor self image? How about love? Do you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let's explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.
When you're chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like "I'm never going to find my Mr. Right," or "There must be something wrong with me," or "I hate dating," or "My one true love must not exist," or "I don't believe in soulmates."? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you haven't found your true love yet? Or, do you think they're totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you'll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, it's time for a reality check!
Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn't think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the 'man magnet' you're casting out into the world?
Still skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Don't worry; you're absolutely right: A man *will* appear. He'll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesn't make your life miserable right away, he'll at least keep you from finding somebody better - for a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn't changed, the next man you'll attract isn't going to be Mr. Wrong, he's going to be Mr. Really Wrong!
You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that you're asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!
Now, you're in a real pickle because you've got what you asked for, but it's not what you want. When you state "I don't want this or that" and "I don't need such and such," it's exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you just can't get a break, why everybody else is falling in love but me, and you're left to wallow in the idea that you're going to grow old alone. If this is how you feel, you're not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don't know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.
But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize it doesn't care one way or the other if you're happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of "I sure hope she finds her dream man this time!" If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.
Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.
You might be asking yourself, "Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys?" or "Hey, I don't even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started?" I'm glad you asked!
You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:
1. Define the type of relationship you want
"I want to meet the man of my dreams," isn't going to cut it. If you want to know how to attract men to you, you are going to have to be specific (e.g., "I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park." or "I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes." or "I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh").
2. How does this man treat you?
(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day.)
3. How does it feel when you are with him?
(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter.)
4. What does he look like?
(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles.)
5. What does he do for fun?
(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel.)
6. Where will you meet this man?
(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club.)
7. How will you know you've found him?
(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance.)
When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him, even taste him!
Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilled and it really is! The universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.
Don't believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn't it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within and "snap" start attracting your perfect man now?
About the Author
Author of How To Attract Men: The Goddess Secrets for women ready to discover what men really want from women and ready to learn all the most coveted secrets on how to attract men.
Do You Desire A Soulmate?
by David Wygant
have wanted to write this blog for so long, I really have. And I know that each of you is going to either completely agree with me on this or totally disagree. And those of you that disagree with me are going to be so pissed" I can feel it already! As you âre reading this you’re wondering why you are going to be pissed at me, and I'll tell you why in a second.
Iâm about to tell you something that is just going to blow you away:
Soulmates are bullshit.
Heres the thing" before you get your panties in a knot" lets say you live in Seattle, and your soulmate lives in Rome. And you have a fear of flying. You'll spend the rest of your life never finding your soulmate.
Lets say you live in New York, and your â soulmate lives in Florida. The problem is that your Jewish grandparents tortured you as a child by taking you to Florida way too many times and you never want to set foot in that state again. So you only vacation now in the Caribbean.
If you believe that there is one soulmate for you out there in the world, then you’d better start traveling to find that person!
But if you re like me" and you believe that you can have soul connections with people, then you are far more evolved than the person who believes there is one perfect partner for everyone.
I don’t believe that there is one person for everybody, and I never have. (Thats not entirely true, I’ll take that back" my mother tortured me with the whole soulmate idea for a long time and throughout my life I thought I had found mine " I thought Ellen was my soulmate, I thought Karen was my soulmate, then Jessica, then Sonya…)
I never thought of Alison (my recent girlfriend) as my soulmate, I thought of her as an equal. That is probably the reason why that relationship was the best I ve ever had.
I've had women tell me " some even recently" that they thought we were soulmates. I looked at them and said, we might have a soul connection, but we re not soulmates.
I believe that your soul is meant to mate with many different people. You can have soul connections " I think Daphne and I have a soul connection. Wherever I go, that dog follows. The minute I met Daphne " she looked at me and she stuck by my side like glue. Thats a soul connection.
If you want to go even deeper into lala-ville (because I do live in Los Angeles) I do believe in past lives and everything else, and I do believe that souls can come back and find each other. I believe that friends will come back and find each other as different things. I could have been a little girl in another life.
If you ve ever seen the movie Defending Your Life with Albert Brooks" which is one of the funniest movies ever" there is this scene where this big chunky guy is doing past life regression and sees himself licking a lollipop and jumping around like a little girl. It was the funniest scene in the entire world " he absolutely freaked out.
But I do believe that souls come back. There are certain people that you meet " male or female " that you know you are going to be friends with them instantly. It s your souls connecting with each other.
There are women that I’ve dated that I’ve had instant soul connections with. Some of those connections were more lustful than others, and some were just on a friendship level.
So I do believe that you can have soul connections. If there was one person in the world for you, and you screw up that relationship by the time you are 30, does that mean you have to spend the rest of your life alone? Absolutely not.
I could move to Russia tomorrow ��" not speaking any of the language ��" and find soul connections with some of the most amazing women. I bet I could make some great friends. But I’ll never drink the vodka because I’m just not a drinker!
But your soulmate is a farce. It’s bullshit. You can have lots of soulmates and many soul connections, but there is not just one person for you. If there were, there would be a ton of people running around the world accumulating many more frequent flier miles trying to find their soulmate.
Here’s another interesting tidbit for all of you: in different parts of your life, you’ll have different soul connections. You are ready for different types of relationships at different periods of your life.
So you might have had an intense soul connection ��" or you might have thought someone was your soulmate ��" but maybe you weren’t ready for that relationship.
Right now, I’m ready to meet my bootymates!
That’s a new term that nobody uses ��" do you know what a bootymate is? It’s an incredible sexual connection with somebody who doesn’t aggravate you at all. All you do is have amazing sex and you feel like your bodies were made for each other. You feel like your bodies know each other. But you don’t have the aggravation of maintaining a relationship.
You don’t have to say “I love you†��" hell, you don’t even have to say, “I like you!†All you have to do is respect each other’s bodies and respect each other’s space. Respect everything. And know that when you get together, your souls are going to connect because you and she are bootymates!
Craig: The concept of soulmate came from Greek mythology. Back then, people believed that once upon a time everyone had two heads, four arms, and four legs ��" but just one soul.
Then the gods threw down lightning bolts and split everybody in half, so now each person had one head, two arms, and two legs ��" but only half of a soul. You were supposed to spend the rest of your life looking for the other half of your soul.
The problem with this is, just as David said, what if in this huge world, your soulmate lives far away? You might never find them. Or worse yet, what if your soulmate lives in your city and you were having a really shitty day on the day that you first met them? Now you’re still doomed to live the rest of your life alone.
I’m convinced that we meet a potential “soulmate†once or twice a month, but we’re not ready to meet them yet and they just pass us by. I’m convinced that serendipity plays a much bigger role in us finding somebody that is right for us. There are just groups of people out there that are right for each of us, and we end up finding one of those people only when we are ready for it.
David: That’s really interesting, I agree with you. It’s so true it’s unbelievable. I’m going to requote you on that: we probably do run into our soulmate at so many different times over the course of a month ��" except we’re not aware of it, or we’re not ready, or we’re not open for it.
They make a left, you make a right, but you were supposed to meet in the middle. Or you’re in the market and you get a Blackberry text message. As you look down, your soulmate walks right by you. It’s very interesting. I don’t think we spend enough time out there engaging everybody.
I think that if you really follow the stuff that I talk about in the Mastery Series, in the bootcamps, and everything else ��" you could probably find a soulmate once a week. You would be so much more in tune with your environment and with who you are as a person ��" you would know yourself inside and out. You’d be so open to things that you would connect with people just like yourself.
This weekend was really interesting. I was telling one of the guys (Allan actually) that he’s going to date exactly who he is right now ��" shy, quiet, very sweet, very nice, great personality. He’s going to meet a woman who has the same type of qualities yet wants to become a little bit more outgoing. Together they are going to really connect. He’ll make a great husband.
But he has to find enough courage to go out there, open his eyes, and start talking to them. That’s what it takes: courage. People don’t have the courage to talk to each other.
Do you realize that is the biggest fear that most people have: that they don’t have enough courage to go up and talk to people? Yet if they could just walk up to someone and say, “man, I really wanted to come over and talk to you, what’s your name?†the other person would be so receptive, because they feel the same exact way!
Usually people are attracted to people who share the same characteristics that they have. Guys will wish that they could date certain women ��" every guy wants to date the Maxim magazine model ��" but they won’t. And they know that.
So that’s an interesting topic, and an interesting thought ��" and it’s 100% true.
About the Author
Hailed on Fox News, The LA Times, The NY Times, Playboy and more… Legendary Dating Coach Launches a New Revolution For over nearly 20 years David Wygant has been earning the trust of American men and women looking to transform their love lives. Today, no dating coach on earth commands more respect from the media, from other experts, and from real-life individuals.
have wanted to write this blog for so long, I really have. And I know that each of you is going to either completely agree with me on this or totally disagree. And those of you that disagree with me are going to be so pissed" I can feel it already! As you âre reading this you’re wondering why you are going to be pissed at me, and I'll tell you why in a second.
Iâm about to tell you something that is just going to blow you away:
Soulmates are bullshit.
Heres the thing" before you get your panties in a knot" lets say you live in Seattle, and your soulmate lives in Rome. And you have a fear of flying. You'll spend the rest of your life never finding your soulmate.
Lets say you live in New York, and your â soulmate lives in Florida. The problem is that your Jewish grandparents tortured you as a child by taking you to Florida way too many times and you never want to set foot in that state again. So you only vacation now in the Caribbean.
If you believe that there is one soulmate for you out there in the world, then you’d better start traveling to find that person!
But if you re like me" and you believe that you can have soul connections with people, then you are far more evolved than the person who believes there is one perfect partner for everyone.
I don’t believe that there is one person for everybody, and I never have. (Thats not entirely true, I’ll take that back" my mother tortured me with the whole soulmate idea for a long time and throughout my life I thought I had found mine " I thought Ellen was my soulmate, I thought Karen was my soulmate, then Jessica, then Sonya…)
I never thought of Alison (my recent girlfriend) as my soulmate, I thought of her as an equal. That is probably the reason why that relationship was the best I ve ever had.
I've had women tell me " some even recently" that they thought we were soulmates. I looked at them and said, we might have a soul connection, but we re not soulmates.
I believe that your soul is meant to mate with many different people. You can have soul connections " I think Daphne and I have a soul connection. Wherever I go, that dog follows. The minute I met Daphne " she looked at me and she stuck by my side like glue. Thats a soul connection.
If you want to go even deeper into lala-ville (because I do live in Los Angeles) I do believe in past lives and everything else, and I do believe that souls can come back and find each other. I believe that friends will come back and find each other as different things. I could have been a little girl in another life.
If you ve ever seen the movie Defending Your Life with Albert Brooks" which is one of the funniest movies ever" there is this scene where this big chunky guy is doing past life regression and sees himself licking a lollipop and jumping around like a little girl. It was the funniest scene in the entire world " he absolutely freaked out.
But I do believe that souls come back. There are certain people that you meet " male or female " that you know you are going to be friends with them instantly. It s your souls connecting with each other.
There are women that I’ve dated that I’ve had instant soul connections with. Some of those connections were more lustful than others, and some were just on a friendship level.
So I do believe that you can have soul connections. If there was one person in the world for you, and you screw up that relationship by the time you are 30, does that mean you have to spend the rest of your life alone? Absolutely not.
I could move to Russia tomorrow ��" not speaking any of the language ��" and find soul connections with some of the most amazing women. I bet I could make some great friends. But I’ll never drink the vodka because I’m just not a drinker!
But your soulmate is a farce. It’s bullshit. You can have lots of soulmates and many soul connections, but there is not just one person for you. If there were, there would be a ton of people running around the world accumulating many more frequent flier miles trying to find their soulmate.
Here’s another interesting tidbit for all of you: in different parts of your life, you’ll have different soul connections. You are ready for different types of relationships at different periods of your life.
So you might have had an intense soul connection ��" or you might have thought someone was your soulmate ��" but maybe you weren’t ready for that relationship.
Right now, I’m ready to meet my bootymates!
That’s a new term that nobody uses ��" do you know what a bootymate is? It’s an incredible sexual connection with somebody who doesn’t aggravate you at all. All you do is have amazing sex and you feel like your bodies were made for each other. You feel like your bodies know each other. But you don’t have the aggravation of maintaining a relationship.
You don’t have to say “I love you†��" hell, you don’t even have to say, “I like you!†All you have to do is respect each other’s bodies and respect each other’s space. Respect everything. And know that when you get together, your souls are going to connect because you and she are bootymates!
Craig: The concept of soulmate came from Greek mythology. Back then, people believed that once upon a time everyone had two heads, four arms, and four legs ��" but just one soul.
Then the gods threw down lightning bolts and split everybody in half, so now each person had one head, two arms, and two legs ��" but only half of a soul. You were supposed to spend the rest of your life looking for the other half of your soul.
The problem with this is, just as David said, what if in this huge world, your soulmate lives far away? You might never find them. Or worse yet, what if your soulmate lives in your city and you were having a really shitty day on the day that you first met them? Now you’re still doomed to live the rest of your life alone.
I’m convinced that we meet a potential “soulmate†once or twice a month, but we’re not ready to meet them yet and they just pass us by. I’m convinced that serendipity plays a much bigger role in us finding somebody that is right for us. There are just groups of people out there that are right for each of us, and we end up finding one of those people only when we are ready for it.
David: That’s really interesting, I agree with you. It’s so true it’s unbelievable. I’m going to requote you on that: we probably do run into our soulmate at so many different times over the course of a month ��" except we’re not aware of it, or we’re not ready, or we’re not open for it.
They make a left, you make a right, but you were supposed to meet in the middle. Or you’re in the market and you get a Blackberry text message. As you look down, your soulmate walks right by you. It’s very interesting. I don’t think we spend enough time out there engaging everybody.
I think that if you really follow the stuff that I talk about in the Mastery Series, in the bootcamps, and everything else ��" you could probably find a soulmate once a week. You would be so much more in tune with your environment and with who you are as a person ��" you would know yourself inside and out. You’d be so open to things that you would connect with people just like yourself.
This weekend was really interesting. I was telling one of the guys (Allan actually) that he’s going to date exactly who he is right now ��" shy, quiet, very sweet, very nice, great personality. He’s going to meet a woman who has the same type of qualities yet wants to become a little bit more outgoing. Together they are going to really connect. He’ll make a great husband.
But he has to find enough courage to go out there, open his eyes, and start talking to them. That’s what it takes: courage. People don’t have the courage to talk to each other.
Do you realize that is the biggest fear that most people have: that they don’t have enough courage to go up and talk to people? Yet if they could just walk up to someone and say, “man, I really wanted to come over and talk to you, what’s your name?†the other person would be so receptive, because they feel the same exact way!
Usually people are attracted to people who share the same characteristics that they have. Guys will wish that they could date certain women ��" every guy wants to date the Maxim magazine model ��" but they won’t. And they know that.
So that’s an interesting topic, and an interesting thought ��" and it’s 100% true.
About the Author
Hailed on Fox News, The LA Times, The NY Times, Playboy and more… Legendary Dating Coach Launches a New Revolution For over nearly 20 years David Wygant has been earning the trust of American men and women looking to transform their love lives. Today, no dating coach on earth commands more respect from the media, from other experts, and from real-life individuals.
Learn More About The Soulmates Online Dating
by Francis K. Githinji
When you want to meet one of tens of thousands singles, you need to go to soulmates dating online. This is a UK site that will ensure you meet the man or woman of your dreams. Apart from registering for free, your age does not matter. If you are between 18 and 90, this is a forum to make that easy connection. A busy lifestyle is one of the reasons why people choose to go online to find love. Above this, there is excitement and anticipation like no other mode of meeting. Many all over the world are appreciating the role played by these services. Soulmates online dating has the experience and profiles that you need to get started. Joining is pretty simple. It will require a bit of information about yourself. You will then come up with a username and a password. Follow the easy instructions and you are in. Before you join, look at the various terms and conditions. You must understand them before you accept. Once you have joined, you will get to do two things. You will get to add your profile. A profile is vital and you should write it in the best manner possible. You also get to add your photo. A good photo speaks a thousand positive words and it increases traffic to your profile. A bad photo will speak a thousand negative words. Take time to take a photo that will please singles. After joining, you will have the opportunity to browse through the available profiles.
Soulmates online dating will provide you with great advise, on how to start you new relationship. This advise is free and you can take advantage of this. I came across great tips that will empower anyone searching for a soulmate online. The first thing is to have a positive attitude. This will play the role of guiding you into making wise decisions. People who are negative will attract the same. This means that you might be matched with what you do not want. The next tip is to begin slowly. Do not be in a hurry to make things work; avoid forcing the relationship. A good relationship occurs naturally and spontaneously. The other tip is to write a profile that is honest and sincere. Look for other tips of how to make your profile excellent. There is something about honesty that reflects humility. People usually resist proud people and you do not want to be resisted. The other thing is to post a photo. This is usually referred to as putting a face to a profile. It really does not matter whether your profile is brilliant or not, when you fail to include a photo, you appear not to be serious with the search. Dare to have your photo posted and increase your chances of finding a potential mate.
After you have made a connection with somebody, do not hurry things. Again, begin slow and see where the relationship will lead you. These are just a few tips that you will find on soulmates online dating. If you believe there is a soulmate out there for you, I do not know what you are waiting for. Get connected to the right group of singles and testify to positive results.
About the Author
Francis K. Githinji Is An Online Dating Expert. His Latest ProjectSoulmates Online Dating Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Soulmates Online Dating
When you want to meet one of tens of thousands singles, you need to go to soulmates dating online. This is a UK site that will ensure you meet the man or woman of your dreams. Apart from registering for free, your age does not matter. If you are between 18 and 90, this is a forum to make that easy connection. A busy lifestyle is one of the reasons why people choose to go online to find love. Above this, there is excitement and anticipation like no other mode of meeting. Many all over the world are appreciating the role played by these services. Soulmates online dating has the experience and profiles that you need to get started. Joining is pretty simple. It will require a bit of information about yourself. You will then come up with a username and a password. Follow the easy instructions and you are in. Before you join, look at the various terms and conditions. You must understand them before you accept. Once you have joined, you will get to do two things. You will get to add your profile. A profile is vital and you should write it in the best manner possible. You also get to add your photo. A good photo speaks a thousand positive words and it increases traffic to your profile. A bad photo will speak a thousand negative words. Take time to take a photo that will please singles. After joining, you will have the opportunity to browse through the available profiles.
Soulmates online dating will provide you with great advise, on how to start you new relationship. This advise is free and you can take advantage of this. I came across great tips that will empower anyone searching for a soulmate online. The first thing is to have a positive attitude. This will play the role of guiding you into making wise decisions. People who are negative will attract the same. This means that you might be matched with what you do not want. The next tip is to begin slowly. Do not be in a hurry to make things work; avoid forcing the relationship. A good relationship occurs naturally and spontaneously. The other tip is to write a profile that is honest and sincere. Look for other tips of how to make your profile excellent. There is something about honesty that reflects humility. People usually resist proud people and you do not want to be resisted. The other thing is to post a photo. This is usually referred to as putting a face to a profile. It really does not matter whether your profile is brilliant or not, when you fail to include a photo, you appear not to be serious with the search. Dare to have your photo posted and increase your chances of finding a potential mate.
After you have made a connection with somebody, do not hurry things. Again, begin slow and see where the relationship will lead you. These are just a few tips that you will find on soulmates online dating. If you believe there is a soulmate out there for you, I do not know what you are waiting for. Get connected to the right group of singles and testify to positive results.
About the Author
Francis K. Githinji Is An Online Dating Expert. His Latest ProjectSoulmates Online Dating Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Soulmates Online Dating
SOULMATES: How to Find Yours -- And Who Will Help You
by Kate Falken
"Soulmates. Everyone is looking for one. The term has become a cliche. But, do they exist? What are they really? The romanticized version is that your soulmate is your perfect twin flame - your one true love. The belief is that somewhere, on the earth plane, walks the one person to complete you." Psychic Fyrewolf of Psychic Scene.
So, exactly what are Soul Mates and how can we find ours?
"Soulmates," Fyrewolf goes on to explain, "and twin flames are not the same thing. The one true love, destined to be your 'other half' happens with odds greater than that of being hit by lightning. And even then, should you find one another, you are not assured of a blissful existence. Look at Tristan and Isolde.. Romeo and Juliet... Anthony and Cleopatra. Most cultures have their own myths built around these archetypes.
"None of them went on to live fruitful, happy lives. They are tragic figures immortalized by their pain. But, would their love have survived if they had lived? Soulmates refers to the souls that we tend to continue incarnating with: the ones who help teach us lessons. Is there one right person for us? No, it's a matter of degrees. In predictive sciences, such as numerology and astrology, we look at points of compatibility to see how well suited you are. Is that your soulmate? It all depends on the lessons you need to learn. A soulmate is someone you share a deep affinity with, but that someone may not just be your spouse. It could be your parent, your best friend, your child, your sibling, even your mentor."
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Ellie, from Crystallinks.com explains: "Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles....You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them."
"Karma is the responsibility shared between soul mates. Often soul mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realm. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes, the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you."
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I think the answer to this question is very nicely addressed by Hugh Lynn Cayce, son of Edgar Cayce (otherwise known as "The Sleeping Profit"). The following extract was taken from Edgar Cayce.org and the Association for Research and Enlightenment. "...We should, no doubt, be cautious about leaving a current marriage partner merely because of an attraction to someone else. In all likelihood, the very same problems and 'opportunities' we are currently facing would be the same regardless of which partner we have in our lives. In relationships, we most often come to terms with those things we need to work on in ourselves, even though we might sometimes think of our partner as being the source of our frustration. Those who come across the idea of soul mates after having already married can still rest assured that their partner is, in fact a Soul Mate."
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According to the website, "Universal Oneness Unites" at www.uou.to/soulmates.htm, "Relationships are mirrors that help us to learn more about ourselves...There are three different types of relationship mirrors. One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So, don't get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go....A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now in your path. "If an issue or person has an emotional 'charge' to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to. The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal or look up to. Take a look at your various relationships and see which group they fall into. By knowing this you will gain insight into yourself. Self understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors, not to 'fix' the other person, but to look at yourself and learn." *
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In Thomas Moore's book, SOULMATES, the author makes a strong case for removing the logical mind from the relationship. In essence, he suggests that what we all fail to understand about relationships is that they don't take into account the element of magick that transcends rational thought and defies technical dissection. Moore writes:
"A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace....Marriage is by nature miraculous and magical. We do not understand it and cannot know where it is headed."
To get that special and powerful insight into your love life and relationships that only a psychic or clairvoyant can give you, check out:
Psychic Connect
Connecting you to the best Romance psychics on the net! Come read detailed profiles of the best psychics online today. Also check out their articles, free Psychic Chatroom, your zodiac sign, and your horoscope...
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Kate Falken http://www.kathleenfalken.0catch.com
"Soulmates. Everyone is looking for one. The term has become a cliche. But, do they exist? What are they really? The romanticized version is that your soulmate is your perfect twin flame - your one true love. The belief is that somewhere, on the earth plane, walks the one person to complete you." Psychic Fyrewolf of Psychic Scene.
So, exactly what are Soul Mates and how can we find ours?
"Soulmates," Fyrewolf goes on to explain, "and twin flames are not the same thing. The one true love, destined to be your 'other half' happens with odds greater than that of being hit by lightning. And even then, should you find one another, you are not assured of a blissful existence. Look at Tristan and Isolde.. Romeo and Juliet... Anthony and Cleopatra. Most cultures have their own myths built around these archetypes.
"None of them went on to live fruitful, happy lives. They are tragic figures immortalized by their pain. But, would their love have survived if they had lived? Soulmates refers to the souls that we tend to continue incarnating with: the ones who help teach us lessons. Is there one right person for us? No, it's a matter of degrees. In predictive sciences, such as numerology and astrology, we look at points of compatibility to see how well suited you are. Is that your soulmate? It all depends on the lessons you need to learn. A soulmate is someone you share a deep affinity with, but that someone may not just be your spouse. It could be your parent, your best friend, your child, your sibling, even your mentor."
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Ellie, from Crystallinks.com explains: "Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles....You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them."
"Karma is the responsibility shared between soul mates. Often soul mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realm. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes, the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you."
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I think the answer to this question is very nicely addressed by Hugh Lynn Cayce, son of Edgar Cayce (otherwise known as "The Sleeping Profit"). The following extract was taken from Edgar Cayce.org and the Association for Research and Enlightenment. "...We should, no doubt, be cautious about leaving a current marriage partner merely because of an attraction to someone else. In all likelihood, the very same problems and 'opportunities' we are currently facing would be the same regardless of which partner we have in our lives. In relationships, we most often come to terms with those things we need to work on in ourselves, even though we might sometimes think of our partner as being the source of our frustration. Those who come across the idea of soul mates after having already married can still rest assured that their partner is, in fact a Soul Mate."
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According to the website, "Universal Oneness Unites" at www.uou.to/soulmates.htm, "Relationships are mirrors that help us to learn more about ourselves...There are three different types of relationship mirrors. One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So, don't get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go....A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now in your path. "If an issue or person has an emotional 'charge' to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to. The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal or look up to. Take a look at your various relationships and see which group they fall into. By knowing this you will gain insight into yourself. Self understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors, not to 'fix' the other person, but to look at yourself and learn." *
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In Thomas Moore's book, SOULMATES, the author makes a strong case for removing the logical mind from the relationship. In essence, he suggests that what we all fail to understand about relationships is that they don't take into account the element of magick that transcends rational thought and defies technical dissection. Moore writes:
"A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace....Marriage is by nature miraculous and magical. We do not understand it and cannot know where it is headed."
To get that special and powerful insight into your love life and relationships that only a psychic or clairvoyant can give you, check out:
Psychic Connect
Connecting you to the best Romance psychics on the net! Come read detailed profiles of the best psychics online today. Also check out their articles, free Psychic Chatroom, your zodiac sign, and your horoscope...
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Kate Falken http://www.kathleenfalken.0catch.com
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