by Keishia Lee-Louis
Many people believe in love at first site. They believe that in an instant, they will know who they should be with for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations often end in divorce.
On the other hand, some couples spend 10 or 15 years getting to know each other before marriage. They'll live together, make major purchases, and even have children, before making a commitment to get married. Unfortunately, many of these marriages also end in divorce because even though they committed with their heads (and maybe even their hearts) the couple didn't know how to make a soul commitment.
Finally, some people go along being unhappily single. They desire to be married, but they find themselves playing games and dating without setting realistic personal goals for their future.
Maybe you're one of the people I've mentioned above. You're in a relationship (or your waiting for one), and you're wondering, "Is this it? Have I really found my soulmate?"
What if I told you that knowing your soulmate has more to do with knowing who you are and your level of commitment, rather than finding the "perfect match" to complete you?
I bring this up because I came across a book entitled Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? It made me think about how true soulmate relationships are formed: God prepares each individual and brings them to a point where their souls can effectively be knitted together for His purposes.
With this thought in mind, here are three ways for you to recognize your soulmate:
1. The communication between the two of you is transparent. "In his excellent book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?, John Powell describes the five levels of communication: cliche, fact opinion, emotion, and transparency."-- From Starting Your Marriage Right, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
Transparent communication means you and your partner can move beyond the cliches, facts, opinions, and emotions to a level where you are both vulnerable, but where truth prevails in your relationship. Transparency doesn't come quickly for most people, but when it does, freedom is not far behind. Transparency comes only with courage, nonjudgemental attitudes, and most importantly, trust. And this leads me to my next point.
2. You and your soulmate will trust each other completely. That means you don't have to wonder if your loved one is doing something inappropriate, without thought to your wellbeing, or without sound judgment. Trust comes when words and actions line up to form a coherent picture of the person you love.
3. You and your soulmate know the meaning of unconditional love. One may say, "Keishia, how can you believe in such a concept in this day in age? This kind of love never happens in real life." I'm here to say that it does. If you've read some of my other articles, you'll note all of the things that must be stripped from a person's character (selfishness, pride, and jealousy) in order to get there. We can't get there by our own will, but rather by God's grace and by understanding His nature. No matter how hard we try to do it in our own strength and conviction, leaning on divine intervention is the only way to rid ourselves of these three character flaws.
Ultimately successful soulmates aren't just born at some point in time or space to hook up by sheer coincidence. They are made over time to be with each other for a lifetime. If you're wondering where yours is, look inward and upward and you're bound to discover more than what you've seeking.
About the Author
Keishia Lee-Louis is the Editor of http://www.Married4Good.com (Launching November 2005). Her work has appeared on iVillage.com, BibleResourceCenter.com, and in numerous other publications. Currently, she is writing a book on marriage and relationships(Spring 2006). If you'd like to see more of her work, visit http://married4good.blogspot.com
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Soulmates how attraction works
by By Mabel Iam
When I find my soulmate Ill feel free. When our bodies come together, the pleasure well feel will be boundless. On that day my soul will recognize, at last, the other wing of love.
Union or reunion?
Two like souls will inevitably attract themselves like magnets, and although finding the ideal partner is said to be hard, we do experience this marvelous phenomenon at least once in our lifetime. In fact, the encounter usually takes place well before the actual discovery of the other individual. Normally, we have experienced this union unknowingly, because affinity is usually so subtle that our ego cannot recognize the presence of that other part of our being.
Levels of soul union
Each human being undergoes this marvelous event at different energy levels: 1. The first level is spiritual: This level is reached when soulmates are internally prepared to meet. Both parts feel utterly whole and if the union is spiritual, chances are that they will never part.
2. The second level is intellectual: The souls are compatible at the level of thought, they bear similarities and have common projects to share.
3. The third level is emotional: From the very first meeting, intense affinity and a feeling of having met before will take over. This is the level at which soulmates fall in love more easily. The surrender is complete and balanced.
4. The fourth level is physical or erotic: Physical surrender and boundless passion: during intercourse, intense and endless hugs and kisses will be shared and the physical contact will really make the two souls feel at home. At an erotic level, soulmates discover from the very beginning that their mate knows their body to perfection. They will caress and kiss as if they were one whole body and their encounters will seem to be taking place beyond space and time, because both feel that they are transported to a different dimension.
The sensation of freedom and flight while they make love is sublime, they will feel they can actually reach out for heaven. Without this last physical level, soulmates cannot really recognize each other as mates. This is because the other levels are related to unconditional love, which can manifest itself as a lasting friendship, or a special affinity between two people, and where a stable or unstable physical relationship is unnecessary. Personality traits, spiritual development or the knowledge each soul has of itself or the other will condition this type of bonding.
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About the Author
Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers in diffe
When I find my soulmate Ill feel free. When our bodies come together, the pleasure well feel will be boundless. On that day my soul will recognize, at last, the other wing of love.
Union or reunion?
Two like souls will inevitably attract themselves like magnets, and although finding the ideal partner is said to be hard, we do experience this marvelous phenomenon at least once in our lifetime. In fact, the encounter usually takes place well before the actual discovery of the other individual. Normally, we have experienced this union unknowingly, because affinity is usually so subtle that our ego cannot recognize the presence of that other part of our being.
Levels of soul union
Each human being undergoes this marvelous event at different energy levels: 1. The first level is spiritual: This level is reached when soulmates are internally prepared to meet. Both parts feel utterly whole and if the union is spiritual, chances are that they will never part.
2. The second level is intellectual: The souls are compatible at the level of thought, they bear similarities and have common projects to share.
3. The third level is emotional: From the very first meeting, intense affinity and a feeling of having met before will take over. This is the level at which soulmates fall in love more easily. The surrender is complete and balanced.
4. The fourth level is physical or erotic: Physical surrender and boundless passion: during intercourse, intense and endless hugs and kisses will be shared and the physical contact will really make the two souls feel at home. At an erotic level, soulmates discover from the very beginning that their mate knows their body to perfection. They will caress and kiss as if they were one whole body and their encounters will seem to be taking place beyond space and time, because both feel that they are transported to a different dimension.
The sensation of freedom and flight while they make love is sublime, they will feel they can actually reach out for heaven. Without this last physical level, soulmates cannot really recognize each other as mates. This is because the other levels are related to unconditional love, which can manifest itself as a lasting friendship, or a special affinity between two people, and where a stable or unstable physical relationship is unnecessary. Personality traits, spiritual development or the knowledge each soul has of itself or the other will condition this type of bonding.
http://www.mabeliam.com/
http://www.sexandtheperfectlover.com/ <
About the Author
Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers in diffe
The Soulmate Concept in Metaphysics
by Ashutosh Agnihotri
Astrology is a metaphysical science. The answers one would get from it comes from within a metaphysical framework of living. This must first be acknowledged before one applies its answers into ordinary living, such as the concept of love.
Life is about learning. Each individual soul would have set its own agenda for resolution and excellence. It has drawn up dramas to act out to achieve its betterment goals. And in many of these dramas, some scenes are designed best to be acted out with certain chosen actors already known; co-lead actors due to past chemistry or familiarity, or just because of previous working experience together.
Many of these genderless souls travel together through incarnational dramas, moving together forward, backward, and onward through time, just so they could learn together. Some kind of symbiosis bonds them into a learning group. They are driven to work together again and again, learning best when together, feeding power and purpose between each other, every time. They remind, goad, and share, empathically. These are soulmates. But sometimes, a soulmate may be the cause of challenges and pain, just as they can be our sweetest solution. Check out your 6th house of adversaries. They might be your major obstruction that can bring out the best in you.
A soulmate pushes you into betterment in areas you are not polished in, but must necessarily undergo for future excellence. It does that because you need to be reminded. Soulmates made an early contract to be there for each other, probably not to bail us out, but to be there to remind us of what more we can do. Soulmates do peer coaching.
The very people who have been a deep source of pain or joy, the very people who continue to be with you through thick and thin, these are your soul families, your soul mates, who have been with you through millennia. Look at them tonight when they sleep beside you, look with your inner eye, and reflect on what they have taught you. Open your understanding to the lessons they have taught you about yourself. See their purposes in your life and understand why they did what they did to you. Did you see the essentials behind the experiences and build new forward tracks, or did you just re-live the experiences and remained in the same spot?
You don't need to know your soul-mate that you think will take away all your pains and give you that elusive nirvanic joy. What you need is to work with the souls around you. These soulmates are real. Check their presence in your horoscope.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
Astrology is a metaphysical science. The answers one would get from it comes from within a metaphysical framework of living. This must first be acknowledged before one applies its answers into ordinary living, such as the concept of love.
Life is about learning. Each individual soul would have set its own agenda for resolution and excellence. It has drawn up dramas to act out to achieve its betterment goals. And in many of these dramas, some scenes are designed best to be acted out with certain chosen actors already known; co-lead actors due to past chemistry or familiarity, or just because of previous working experience together.
Many of these genderless souls travel together through incarnational dramas, moving together forward, backward, and onward through time, just so they could learn together. Some kind of symbiosis bonds them into a learning group. They are driven to work together again and again, learning best when together, feeding power and purpose between each other, every time. They remind, goad, and share, empathically. These are soulmates. But sometimes, a soulmate may be the cause of challenges and pain, just as they can be our sweetest solution. Check out your 6th house of adversaries. They might be your major obstruction that can bring out the best in you.
A soulmate pushes you into betterment in areas you are not polished in, but must necessarily undergo for future excellence. It does that because you need to be reminded. Soulmates made an early contract to be there for each other, probably not to bail us out, but to be there to remind us of what more we can do. Soulmates do peer coaching.
The very people who have been a deep source of pain or joy, the very people who continue to be with you through thick and thin, these are your soul families, your soul mates, who have been with you through millennia. Look at them tonight when they sleep beside you, look with your inner eye, and reflect on what they have taught you. Open your understanding to the lessons they have taught you about yourself. See their purposes in your life and understand why they did what they did to you. Did you see the essentials behind the experiences and build new forward tracks, or did you just re-live the experiences and remained in the same spot?
You don't need to know your soul-mate that you think will take away all your pains and give you that elusive nirvanic joy. What you need is to work with the souls around you. These soulmates are real. Check their presence in your horoscope.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
The Soulmate Concept in Astrology
by Ashuosh Agnihotri
The astrological answer to finding your soulmate from the horoscope is found where the biggest lessons come from deepest relationships. Clues to your soulmate/s may be found in the intimacies of your 7th house, in the romances of your 5th, and even in the gratifications of the 8th. Aside from that, one of the base factors is to consider respective Venus placements, one of the many but simple considerations in the soul-matching matrix.
Imagine a female chart with Venus in Gemini, and a male chart with Venus in Capricorn. This almost promises a fundamental emotional incompatibility. Where she needs her playful love with a preference for variety, loves her quickies, he instead prefers to take his time, be systematic about it, devoted, and probably even philosophize it. So what do they do?
First, he should know about her Venus in Gemini, and she should know about his Venus in Capricorn. They need to understand why they made the choice of placing their respective Venuses there when they designed their incarnational 'tour of duty'. They should understand how these energies will express themselves. What did they need to resolve within themselves, and with each other? Why did they decide to be together when their Venus positions appear so divergent?
The Venus positions alone do not promise 'incompatibility'. They just promise being 'different'.
They have a choice not to submit to the effects of the incongruence of that 'difference'. They have a choice to learn to enjoy the varieties of that 'difference'. They have a choice of learning to 'give space'; a dire lesson brought by that difference. To understand their respective preferences by these positions requires communication, understanding and the ever-crucial compromise in order not to lose the integrities of their souls. The 'difference' is just a 'learning platform'. Soulmates need to serve the differential. They need to work-out, together, on what to do in order to fill the void made by that difference.
The people who participate intimately in the pains and joys of your life are some of the most intimate souls from your inner "learning group". They can be of either gender, and the connection doesn't even have to be sexual. Forget the grandeur of an exotic partner from the other side of the world. That great soul-mate could be right beside you right now, and it probably might not know its status in your life because it is similarly warped in its own agenda. It's also probably yearning for its own soulmate. Of course, your 'true' soul-mate can also be an exotic partner from the other side of the world, but don't miss working out with these soulmates in your sphere right now. The contract is as real.
Find the differences. Bridge the gap. Chances are, every soul around you is a 'mate'.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
The astrological answer to finding your soulmate from the horoscope is found where the biggest lessons come from deepest relationships. Clues to your soulmate/s may be found in the intimacies of your 7th house, in the romances of your 5th, and even in the gratifications of the 8th. Aside from that, one of the base factors is to consider respective Venus placements, one of the many but simple considerations in the soul-matching matrix.
Imagine a female chart with Venus in Gemini, and a male chart with Venus in Capricorn. This almost promises a fundamental emotional incompatibility. Where she needs her playful love with a preference for variety, loves her quickies, he instead prefers to take his time, be systematic about it, devoted, and probably even philosophize it. So what do they do?
First, he should know about her Venus in Gemini, and she should know about his Venus in Capricorn. They need to understand why they made the choice of placing their respective Venuses there when they designed their incarnational 'tour of duty'. They should understand how these energies will express themselves. What did they need to resolve within themselves, and with each other? Why did they decide to be together when their Venus positions appear so divergent?
The Venus positions alone do not promise 'incompatibility'. They just promise being 'different'.
They have a choice not to submit to the effects of the incongruence of that 'difference'. They have a choice to learn to enjoy the varieties of that 'difference'. They have a choice of learning to 'give space'; a dire lesson brought by that difference. To understand their respective preferences by these positions requires communication, understanding and the ever-crucial compromise in order not to lose the integrities of their souls. The 'difference' is just a 'learning platform'. Soulmates need to serve the differential. They need to work-out, together, on what to do in order to fill the void made by that difference.
The people who participate intimately in the pains and joys of your life are some of the most intimate souls from your inner "learning group". They can be of either gender, and the connection doesn't even have to be sexual. Forget the grandeur of an exotic partner from the other side of the world. That great soul-mate could be right beside you right now, and it probably might not know its status in your life because it is similarly warped in its own agenda. It's also probably yearning for its own soulmate. Of course, your 'true' soul-mate can also be an exotic partner from the other side of the world, but don't miss working out with these soulmates in your sphere right now. The contract is as real.
Find the differences. Bridge the gap. Chances are, every soul around you is a 'mate'.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
Finding Your Soulmate
by Arielle Ford
I struggled for many years before I discovered a little known approach to success that turned my world upside down. I soon became one of the top book publicists in the nation with clients like Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsch, Dean Ornish, Jon Gordon, Gary Zukav, Louise Hay, Jack Canfield andMark Victor Hansen of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame. Although my business career was a huge success, I soon realized that, my personal life was a disaster.
I was 40 years old, unmarried and all my dates turned out to be frogs. But then something very enlightening happened to me. I was standing in a bookstore looking over all the books on love and dating when I came upon a book on soulmates. I picked it up and started to read it. It explained how to know when you have met your soulmate and the wonderful feelings and vibrations you experience to tell you that you've indeed attracted the love of your life.
And then I thought, What if I used that success secret I cherished and used for so many years-the one secret that led to my wonderful success in business and I used it to attract a soulmate"?
And that is what I did. The frogs stopped coming around, a dashingly handsome man appeared in a last-minute business meeting and in days I knew I had met my soulmate. We got married six months after we met. Ten years later, I am still in absolute heaven.
As someone who didn't meet and marry my soulmate until I was 44, I learned a lot along the way about what does and doesn't work in the world of love and romance. Finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you're willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don't believe you will ever find the ONE, then guess what? You get to be right you probably won't. If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is also looking for you, then true love can be yours.
Creating the Soulmate Kit was my way of documenting the process I used so I could share the secrets with others. It's also a way for me to provide hope for those who feel hopeless in the area of romance. You may be unconsciously blocking your soulmate from coming into your life. The Soulmate Kit has been created to help you remove these blocks and guide you to prepare to manifest your soulmate.
About the Author
Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com.
I struggled for many years before I discovered a little known approach to success that turned my world upside down. I soon became one of the top book publicists in the nation with clients like Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsch, Dean Ornish, Jon Gordon, Gary Zukav, Louise Hay, Jack Canfield andMark Victor Hansen of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame. Although my business career was a huge success, I soon realized that, my personal life was a disaster.
I was 40 years old, unmarried and all my dates turned out to be frogs. But then something very enlightening happened to me. I was standing in a bookstore looking over all the books on love and dating when I came upon a book on soulmates. I picked it up and started to read it. It explained how to know when you have met your soulmate and the wonderful feelings and vibrations you experience to tell you that you've indeed attracted the love of your life.
And then I thought, What if I used that success secret I cherished and used for so many years-the one secret that led to my wonderful success in business and I used it to attract a soulmate"?
And that is what I did. The frogs stopped coming around, a dashingly handsome man appeared in a last-minute business meeting and in days I knew I had met my soulmate. We got married six months after we met. Ten years later, I am still in absolute heaven.
As someone who didn't meet and marry my soulmate until I was 44, I learned a lot along the way about what does and doesn't work in the world of love and romance. Finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you're willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don't believe you will ever find the ONE, then guess what? You get to be right you probably won't. If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is also looking for you, then true love can be yours.
Creating the Soulmate Kit was my way of documenting the process I used so I could share the secrets with others. It's also a way for me to provide hope for those who feel hopeless in the area of romance. You may be unconsciously blocking your soulmate from coming into your life. The Soulmate Kit has been created to help you remove these blocks and guide you to prepare to manifest your soulmate.
About the Author
Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com.
Do Soulmates Exist? - A look Into Scarcity Mindset
by Christian Thorne
Many men use the idea of having a soul mate as a comfort tool. They believe that one day they'll meet that special someone and all of their dating and relationship problems will magically disappear. This is a terrible way of thinking.
Scarcity Mindset
Men who have few options with women have what is called a Scarcity Mindset. This limited mindset causes men to hold false beliefs and inhibit bad behavior toward the women they choose. A man who feels he has limited choices will easily obsess and/or attach himself to the few women he meets. Lets explore this further.
The Fantasy Of "The One"
Society pours the idea down your throat that there is only one person out there for you. They call them "the one", "soul mates", "twin flame", or any other ridiculous name. These things are about as real as Santa Claus, Tooth Fairies, and Leprechauns, yet so many people like to fantasize that they are real.
The truth is there is not one person you are meant for. Holding this belief only holds you back from seeing the truth and having real options in your dating life. Sure some women are more "compatible" for you than others, but with over 3 billion women on this planet to choose from if you're still thinking there's only one for you, you are only limiting yourself.
People like to convince themselves that they've found a soul mate when they've made poor choices with who they date then all of a sudden someone comes along that they actually have things in common with and because they've never experienced this before they call them their "soul mate".
Thinking that you can't feel the same way about any other person is a false belief. That's great that you were able to establish a strong bond with one woman but to think you can't feel that same way about another woman is completely false. This type of mentality keeps people from moving on after relationships. It keeps them from getting out of bad relationships they should have never been in in the first place!
Be Complete On Your Own
We've all heard the other suck up false belief, "you complete me". Men and women who are looking for someone to complete them are only hiding the fact from themselves that they don't feel complete as a person on their own.
You need to find yourself and be completely satisfied with who you are, don't try to find yourself in another person. You need to have more going on for you than her. Think about how unattractive that is to have nothing going on for yourself than her.
The moment you make her the center of who you are you lose the very thing that made her attracted to you. She was likely attracted to you for who you were and all the interesting things about you. Now if what you have going on for yourself is her, she will not be attracted to you.
This mentality will make you start to get needy toward her. You might subconsciously start sucking up to her. You might seek her approval as if she's better than you. She will quickly pick up on these queues and lose attraction for you.
Learn To See Abundance
Once you learn to see abundance in the women you have to choose from it will open up a whole new world of opportunity for your dating life. You will never come from a "take what you can get" mind frame. You will see a ton of choice and will allow yourself to become choosy.
Guys often settle for someone they don't actually want. When you're with a woman and you are going to be exclusive with her ask your self, "If I could be with anyone I wanted, no matter what, would I choose this woman". If the answer is no, you have made the wrong decision.
If you're the type that's only taken what he can get you likely don't know what you want. Sure you should have a basic idea of what type of women you prefer, but you don't really know what you want unless you've experienced a lot of different women. You might realize the type you think you want might turn out to not be right for you once you've dated that type.
There are a lot of women who also have Scarcity Mindset, but beautiful women do not. They have tons of men to choose from and they know it. They cannot relate to a man who doesn't also see abundance. Women are attracted to men who are choosers, not men who wait to be chosen.
People are often scared to get out of relationships that they know aren't right for them because they are scared that they won't find someone else. It is important that you make being an attractive man a part of your identity and you are able keep that identity and still see abundance even in a relationship.
This will allow you to make healthier relationship decisions for yourself. If you decide that a relationship is not good for you it is easier to walk away knowing that you can get another woman rather than staying and creating an unhealthy situation for both of you because you lack the ability to see abundance.
You must believe there is abundance to receive abundance because once you believe your thoughts and actions will cause behavior that will allow it. Use this new mindset to allow you to not be needy or care about the outcome of any interaction. Be willing to walk away from all interactions.
Picking a mate is a big deal so be choosy. Keep your options open and get experienced. Whoever you do choose will be grateful because you're a man with options and you chose her!
If you'd like to learn more dating tips and techniques on how to attract women into your life head over to FactorsOfAttraction.com
About the Author
Christian Throne has helped thousands of men reach their goals of having happy healthy relationships with women through one on one coaching and his best selling book Factors of Attraction that teaches men how to effortlessly attract and date beautiful women.
Many men use the idea of having a soul mate as a comfort tool. They believe that one day they'll meet that special someone and all of their dating and relationship problems will magically disappear. This is a terrible way of thinking.
Scarcity Mindset
Men who have few options with women have what is called a Scarcity Mindset. This limited mindset causes men to hold false beliefs and inhibit bad behavior toward the women they choose. A man who feels he has limited choices will easily obsess and/or attach himself to the few women he meets. Lets explore this further.
The Fantasy Of "The One"
Society pours the idea down your throat that there is only one person out there for you. They call them "the one", "soul mates", "twin flame", or any other ridiculous name. These things are about as real as Santa Claus, Tooth Fairies, and Leprechauns, yet so many people like to fantasize that they are real.
The truth is there is not one person you are meant for. Holding this belief only holds you back from seeing the truth and having real options in your dating life. Sure some women are more "compatible" for you than others, but with over 3 billion women on this planet to choose from if you're still thinking there's only one for you, you are only limiting yourself.
People like to convince themselves that they've found a soul mate when they've made poor choices with who they date then all of a sudden someone comes along that they actually have things in common with and because they've never experienced this before they call them their "soul mate".
Thinking that you can't feel the same way about any other person is a false belief. That's great that you were able to establish a strong bond with one woman but to think you can't feel that same way about another woman is completely false. This type of mentality keeps people from moving on after relationships. It keeps them from getting out of bad relationships they should have never been in in the first place!
Be Complete On Your Own
We've all heard the other suck up false belief, "you complete me". Men and women who are looking for someone to complete them are only hiding the fact from themselves that they don't feel complete as a person on their own.
You need to find yourself and be completely satisfied with who you are, don't try to find yourself in another person. You need to have more going on for you than her. Think about how unattractive that is to have nothing going on for yourself than her.
The moment you make her the center of who you are you lose the very thing that made her attracted to you. She was likely attracted to you for who you were and all the interesting things about you. Now if what you have going on for yourself is her, she will not be attracted to you.
This mentality will make you start to get needy toward her. You might subconsciously start sucking up to her. You might seek her approval as if she's better than you. She will quickly pick up on these queues and lose attraction for you.
Learn To See Abundance
Once you learn to see abundance in the women you have to choose from it will open up a whole new world of opportunity for your dating life. You will never come from a "take what you can get" mind frame. You will see a ton of choice and will allow yourself to become choosy.
Guys often settle for someone they don't actually want. When you're with a woman and you are going to be exclusive with her ask your self, "If I could be with anyone I wanted, no matter what, would I choose this woman". If the answer is no, you have made the wrong decision.
If you're the type that's only taken what he can get you likely don't know what you want. Sure you should have a basic idea of what type of women you prefer, but you don't really know what you want unless you've experienced a lot of different women. You might realize the type you think you want might turn out to not be right for you once you've dated that type.
There are a lot of women who also have Scarcity Mindset, but beautiful women do not. They have tons of men to choose from and they know it. They cannot relate to a man who doesn't also see abundance. Women are attracted to men who are choosers, not men who wait to be chosen.
People are often scared to get out of relationships that they know aren't right for them because they are scared that they won't find someone else. It is important that you make being an attractive man a part of your identity and you are able keep that identity and still see abundance even in a relationship.
This will allow you to make healthier relationship decisions for yourself. If you decide that a relationship is not good for you it is easier to walk away knowing that you can get another woman rather than staying and creating an unhealthy situation for both of you because you lack the ability to see abundance.
You must believe there is abundance to receive abundance because once you believe your thoughts and actions will cause behavior that will allow it. Use this new mindset to allow you to not be needy or care about the outcome of any interaction. Be willing to walk away from all interactions.
Picking a mate is a big deal so be choosy. Keep your options open and get experienced. Whoever you do choose will be grateful because you're a man with options and you chose her!
If you'd like to learn more dating tips and techniques on how to attract women into your life head over to FactorsOfAttraction.com
About the Author
Christian Throne has helped thousands of men reach their goals of having happy healthy relationships with women through one on one coaching and his best selling book Factors of Attraction that teaches men how to effortlessly attract and date beautiful women.
Attracting Your Soulmate
by Russ Michael
See, taste, smell, hear, touch, intuit or think! All seven of these fine, ordinary and extraordinary sensory perceptions are what constitute your and my "world" reality! We all live in a huge vibrational universe.
If you choose you may call this vast, unlimited pulsating field of All That Is by other signatures or names like God, Universal Mind, Brahma, The One Source, or a host of very sacred names or divinely inspired metaphors like those conceived of by Annalee Skarin who wrote her eight classic and revelatory books with her "pen dipped in heaven"! The truth remains. We are immersed in, engulfed in, surrounded by, held sacredly by and mortally alive with a vast nonstop vibrational field. Our very thoughts are the most powerful vibratory universal pulsations that exist! Our every movement of body, mind, soul and spirit is inspired or motivated by VIBRATION.
Try to think of what is not pulsating or vibrating at some level in our entire local or planetary, solar, cosmic or universal spectrum level! What is not alive with motion - even if our finite human senses or so delicate and so very sensitive 20th century scientific instruments cannot detect it? Can SOULMATES detect it?
We are now sophisticated enough to know Universal Laws dictate or govern every impact or vibrational fusion or explosion. Absolutely nothing happens by "accident" for the Vibrational universe keeps in perfect track of every micro-moment of every minus or plus "intent" or "event" in time - or in space!
In some not yet publicly known fashion or means, this immense vibrational Universe (not one word, one sentence but ONE verse) you and I are "part and parcel" of always moves back toward a ZERO universal state! Nothing can move 'back' and 'toward' at the same time. Consider *. This indicates that all sound or any movement of any wave or particle within this great universe arises from out of an absolutely still or motionless void. The flat line becomes a complex line, wave and particle.
If "something' can come out of 'nothing"- surely then SOULMATES- even now swimming blindly through this grand ocean of infinite vibration - ought to be able to then mentally or physically reach out to find that "special someone" who is her or his vibrational match!
Before you have finished your journey through the vibrational paths, trails or halls of knowledge in this book, you ought to know enough about vibrations - how to summon them and how to still or free yourself of unwanted ones - to attract not only a SOULMATE but whatever else you may want to experience in your daily life stream. The more you know about how and why vibrations work - the quicker and the more effective you personally will be in your "vibrational creativity"!
You, like your Creator, are also fully and freely able to be a consciously deliberate creator. You were innately gifted with the creative ability of a god or goddess! The world you live in right at this very moment in your three-dimensional reality was created totally and entirely by you- by deliberate design or by default! You did it.
If that world is not the kind of a world that you now want to inhabit, for creators can change their minds, * "Ye are Gods"-Devorss & Co., then simply go forward in this moment and change it! Offer the Universe a different vibration that matches what you now know what you want. Change your vibration -and your new vibration field will attract and move you into fresh and so very exciting new physical and spiritual realities.
Of these - certainly the foremost new vibrational desire can be the strong and very deliberate summoning of your SOULMATE.
About the Author
Russ Michael is the author of the revolutionary Finding Your Soulmate and introduced the concept of "soulmates" to the world in 1970. This article is the first chapter from his upcoming release Handbook for Soulmates.
See, taste, smell, hear, touch, intuit or think! All seven of these fine, ordinary and extraordinary sensory perceptions are what constitute your and my "world" reality! We all live in a huge vibrational universe.
If you choose you may call this vast, unlimited pulsating field of All That Is by other signatures or names like God, Universal Mind, Brahma, The One Source, or a host of very sacred names or divinely inspired metaphors like those conceived of by Annalee Skarin who wrote her eight classic and revelatory books with her "pen dipped in heaven"! The truth remains. We are immersed in, engulfed in, surrounded by, held sacredly by and mortally alive with a vast nonstop vibrational field. Our very thoughts are the most powerful vibratory universal pulsations that exist! Our every movement of body, mind, soul and spirit is inspired or motivated by VIBRATION.
Try to think of what is not pulsating or vibrating at some level in our entire local or planetary, solar, cosmic or universal spectrum level! What is not alive with motion - even if our finite human senses or so delicate and so very sensitive 20th century scientific instruments cannot detect it? Can SOULMATES detect it?
We are now sophisticated enough to know Universal Laws dictate or govern every impact or vibrational fusion or explosion. Absolutely nothing happens by "accident" for the Vibrational universe keeps in perfect track of every micro-moment of every minus or plus "intent" or "event" in time - or in space!
In some not yet publicly known fashion or means, this immense vibrational Universe (not one word, one sentence but ONE verse) you and I are "part and parcel" of always moves back toward a ZERO universal state! Nothing can move 'back' and 'toward' at the same time. Consider *. This indicates that all sound or any movement of any wave or particle within this great universe arises from out of an absolutely still or motionless void. The flat line becomes a complex line, wave and particle.
If "something' can come out of 'nothing"- surely then SOULMATES- even now swimming blindly through this grand ocean of infinite vibration - ought to be able to then mentally or physically reach out to find that "special someone" who is her or his vibrational match!
Before you have finished your journey through the vibrational paths, trails or halls of knowledge in this book, you ought to know enough about vibrations - how to summon them and how to still or free yourself of unwanted ones - to attract not only a SOULMATE but whatever else you may want to experience in your daily life stream. The more you know about how and why vibrations work - the quicker and the more effective you personally will be in your "vibrational creativity"!
You, like your Creator, are also fully and freely able to be a consciously deliberate creator. You were innately gifted with the creative ability of a god or goddess! The world you live in right at this very moment in your three-dimensional reality was created totally and entirely by you- by deliberate design or by default! You did it.
If that world is not the kind of a world that you now want to inhabit, for creators can change their minds, * "Ye are Gods"-Devorss & Co., then simply go forward in this moment and change it! Offer the Universe a different vibration that matches what you now know what you want. Change your vibration -and your new vibration field will attract and move you into fresh and so very exciting new physical and spiritual realities.
Of these - certainly the foremost new vibrational desire can be the strong and very deliberate summoning of your SOULMATE.
About the Author
Russ Michael is the author of the revolutionary Finding Your Soulmate and introduced the concept of "soulmates" to the world in 1970. This article is the first chapter from his upcoming release Handbook for Soulmates.
Is The Law of Attraction Broken? How do I Find My Soulmate When I Can't Even Get a Date!
by Tanya Haden Tebb
Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals. Orison Swett Marden
Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can't find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? Do you wish you really knew how to attract men. If you do, ask yourself this: Why haven't you found him yet? And, while you're flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this;
The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because that's what it's made up of. People attract other people who are 'made up' of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.
So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you want like money, power, and confidence? Even the things you don't want like debt, conflict, or poor self image? How about love? Do you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let's explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.
When you're chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like "I'm never going to find my Mr. Right," or "There must be something wrong with me," or "I hate dating," or "My one true love must not exist," or "I don't believe in soulmates."? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you haven't found your true love yet? Or, do you think they're totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you'll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, it's time for a reality check!
Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn't think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the 'man magnet' you're casting out into the world?
Still skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Don't worry; you're absolutely right: A man *will* appear. He'll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesn't make your life miserable right away, he'll at least keep you from finding somebody better - for a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn't changed, the next man you'll attract isn't going to be Mr. Wrong, he's going to be Mr. Really Wrong!
You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that you're asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!
Now, you're in a real pickle because you've got what you asked for, but it's not what you want. When you state "I don't want this or that" and "I don't need such and such," it's exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you just can't get a break, why everybody else is falling in love but me, and you're left to wallow in the idea that you're going to grow old alone. If this is how you feel, you're not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don't know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.
But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize it doesn't care one way or the other if you're happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of "I sure hope she finds her dream man this time!" If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.
Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.
You might be asking yourself, "Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys?" or "Hey, I don't even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started?" I'm glad you asked!
You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:
1. Define the type of relationship you want
"I want to meet the man of my dreams," isn't going to cut it. If you want to know how to attract men to you, you are going to have to be specific (e.g., "I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park." or "I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes." or "I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh").
2. How does this man treat you?
(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day.)
3. How does it feel when you are with him?
(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter.)
4. What does he look like?
(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles.)
5. What does he do for fun?
(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel.)
6. Where will you meet this man?
(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club.)
7. How will you know you've found him?
(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance.)
When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him, even taste him!
Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilled and it really is! The universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.
Don't believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn't it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within and "snap" start attracting your perfect man now?
About the Author
Author of How To Attract Men: The Goddess Secrets for women ready to discover what men really want from women and ready to learn all the most coveted secrets on how to attract men.
Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals. Orison Swett Marden
Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can't find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? Do you wish you really knew how to attract men. If you do, ask yourself this: Why haven't you found him yet? And, while you're flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this;
The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because that's what it's made up of. People attract other people who are 'made up' of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.
So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you want like money, power, and confidence? Even the things you don't want like debt, conflict, or poor self image? How about love? Do you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let's explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.
When you're chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like "I'm never going to find my Mr. Right," or "There must be something wrong with me," or "I hate dating," or "My one true love must not exist," or "I don't believe in soulmates."? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you haven't found your true love yet? Or, do you think they're totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you'll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, it's time for a reality check!
Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn't think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the 'man magnet' you're casting out into the world?
Still skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Don't worry; you're absolutely right: A man *will* appear. He'll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesn't make your life miserable right away, he'll at least keep you from finding somebody better - for a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn't changed, the next man you'll attract isn't going to be Mr. Wrong, he's going to be Mr. Really Wrong!
You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that you're asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!
Now, you're in a real pickle because you've got what you asked for, but it's not what you want. When you state "I don't want this or that" and "I don't need such and such," it's exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you just can't get a break, why everybody else is falling in love but me, and you're left to wallow in the idea that you're going to grow old alone. If this is how you feel, you're not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don't know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.
But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize it doesn't care one way or the other if you're happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of "I sure hope she finds her dream man this time!" If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.
Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.
You might be asking yourself, "Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys?" or "Hey, I don't even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started?" I'm glad you asked!
You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:
1. Define the type of relationship you want
"I want to meet the man of my dreams," isn't going to cut it. If you want to know how to attract men to you, you are going to have to be specific (e.g., "I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park." or "I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes." or "I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh").
2. How does this man treat you?
(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day.)
3. How does it feel when you are with him?
(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter.)
4. What does he look like?
(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles.)
5. What does he do for fun?
(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel.)
6. Where will you meet this man?
(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club.)
7. How will you know you've found him?
(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance.)
When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him, even taste him!
Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilled and it really is! The universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.
Don't believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn't it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within and "snap" start attracting your perfect man now?
About the Author
Author of How To Attract Men: The Goddess Secrets for women ready to discover what men really want from women and ready to learn all the most coveted secrets on how to attract men.
Do You Desire A Soulmate?
by David Wygant
have wanted to write this blog for so long, I really have. And I know that each of you is going to either completely agree with me on this or totally disagree. And those of you that disagree with me are going to be so pissed" I can feel it already! As you âre reading this you’re wondering why you are going to be pissed at me, and I'll tell you why in a second.
Iâm about to tell you something that is just going to blow you away:
Soulmates are bullshit.
Heres the thing" before you get your panties in a knot" lets say you live in Seattle, and your soulmate lives in Rome. And you have a fear of flying. You'll spend the rest of your life never finding your soulmate.
Lets say you live in New York, and your â soulmate lives in Florida. The problem is that your Jewish grandparents tortured you as a child by taking you to Florida way too many times and you never want to set foot in that state again. So you only vacation now in the Caribbean.
If you believe that there is one soulmate for you out there in the world, then you’d better start traveling to find that person!
But if you re like me" and you believe that you can have soul connections with people, then you are far more evolved than the person who believes there is one perfect partner for everyone.
I don’t believe that there is one person for everybody, and I never have. (Thats not entirely true, I’ll take that back" my mother tortured me with the whole soulmate idea for a long time and throughout my life I thought I had found mine " I thought Ellen was my soulmate, I thought Karen was my soulmate, then Jessica, then Sonya…)
I never thought of Alison (my recent girlfriend) as my soulmate, I thought of her as an equal. That is probably the reason why that relationship was the best I ve ever had.
I've had women tell me " some even recently" that they thought we were soulmates. I looked at them and said, we might have a soul connection, but we re not soulmates.
I believe that your soul is meant to mate with many different people. You can have soul connections " I think Daphne and I have a soul connection. Wherever I go, that dog follows. The minute I met Daphne " she looked at me and she stuck by my side like glue. Thats a soul connection.
If you want to go even deeper into lala-ville (because I do live in Los Angeles) I do believe in past lives and everything else, and I do believe that souls can come back and find each other. I believe that friends will come back and find each other as different things. I could have been a little girl in another life.
If you ve ever seen the movie Defending Your Life with Albert Brooks" which is one of the funniest movies ever" there is this scene where this big chunky guy is doing past life regression and sees himself licking a lollipop and jumping around like a little girl. It was the funniest scene in the entire world " he absolutely freaked out.
But I do believe that souls come back. There are certain people that you meet " male or female " that you know you are going to be friends with them instantly. It s your souls connecting with each other.
There are women that I’ve dated that I’ve had instant soul connections with. Some of those connections were more lustful than others, and some were just on a friendship level.
So I do believe that you can have soul connections. If there was one person in the world for you, and you screw up that relationship by the time you are 30, does that mean you have to spend the rest of your life alone? Absolutely not.
I could move to Russia tomorrow ��" not speaking any of the language ��" and find soul connections with some of the most amazing women. I bet I could make some great friends. But I’ll never drink the vodka because I’m just not a drinker!
But your soulmate is a farce. It’s bullshit. You can have lots of soulmates and many soul connections, but there is not just one person for you. If there were, there would be a ton of people running around the world accumulating many more frequent flier miles trying to find their soulmate.
Here’s another interesting tidbit for all of you: in different parts of your life, you’ll have different soul connections. You are ready for different types of relationships at different periods of your life.
So you might have had an intense soul connection ��" or you might have thought someone was your soulmate ��" but maybe you weren’t ready for that relationship.
Right now, I’m ready to meet my bootymates!
That’s a new term that nobody uses ��" do you know what a bootymate is? It’s an incredible sexual connection with somebody who doesn’t aggravate you at all. All you do is have amazing sex and you feel like your bodies were made for each other. You feel like your bodies know each other. But you don’t have the aggravation of maintaining a relationship.
You don’t have to say “I love you†��" hell, you don’t even have to say, “I like you!†All you have to do is respect each other’s bodies and respect each other’s space. Respect everything. And know that when you get together, your souls are going to connect because you and she are bootymates!
Craig: The concept of soulmate came from Greek mythology. Back then, people believed that once upon a time everyone had two heads, four arms, and four legs ��" but just one soul.
Then the gods threw down lightning bolts and split everybody in half, so now each person had one head, two arms, and two legs ��" but only half of a soul. You were supposed to spend the rest of your life looking for the other half of your soul.
The problem with this is, just as David said, what if in this huge world, your soulmate lives far away? You might never find them. Or worse yet, what if your soulmate lives in your city and you were having a really shitty day on the day that you first met them? Now you’re still doomed to live the rest of your life alone.
I’m convinced that we meet a potential “soulmate†once or twice a month, but we’re not ready to meet them yet and they just pass us by. I’m convinced that serendipity plays a much bigger role in us finding somebody that is right for us. There are just groups of people out there that are right for each of us, and we end up finding one of those people only when we are ready for it.
David: That’s really interesting, I agree with you. It’s so true it’s unbelievable. I’m going to requote you on that: we probably do run into our soulmate at so many different times over the course of a month ��" except we’re not aware of it, or we’re not ready, or we’re not open for it.
They make a left, you make a right, but you were supposed to meet in the middle. Or you’re in the market and you get a Blackberry text message. As you look down, your soulmate walks right by you. It’s very interesting. I don’t think we spend enough time out there engaging everybody.
I think that if you really follow the stuff that I talk about in the Mastery Series, in the bootcamps, and everything else ��" you could probably find a soulmate once a week. You would be so much more in tune with your environment and with who you are as a person ��" you would know yourself inside and out. You’d be so open to things that you would connect with people just like yourself.
This weekend was really interesting. I was telling one of the guys (Allan actually) that he’s going to date exactly who he is right now ��" shy, quiet, very sweet, very nice, great personality. He’s going to meet a woman who has the same type of qualities yet wants to become a little bit more outgoing. Together they are going to really connect. He’ll make a great husband.
But he has to find enough courage to go out there, open his eyes, and start talking to them. That’s what it takes: courage. People don’t have the courage to talk to each other.
Do you realize that is the biggest fear that most people have: that they don’t have enough courage to go up and talk to people? Yet if they could just walk up to someone and say, “man, I really wanted to come over and talk to you, what’s your name?†the other person would be so receptive, because they feel the same exact way!
Usually people are attracted to people who share the same characteristics that they have. Guys will wish that they could date certain women ��" every guy wants to date the Maxim magazine model ��" but they won’t. And they know that.
So that’s an interesting topic, and an interesting thought ��" and it’s 100% true.
About the Author
Hailed on Fox News, The LA Times, The NY Times, Playboy and more… Legendary Dating Coach Launches a New Revolution For over nearly 20 years David Wygant has been earning the trust of American men and women looking to transform their love lives. Today, no dating coach on earth commands more respect from the media, from other experts, and from real-life individuals.
have wanted to write this blog for so long, I really have. And I know that each of you is going to either completely agree with me on this or totally disagree. And those of you that disagree with me are going to be so pissed" I can feel it already! As you âre reading this you’re wondering why you are going to be pissed at me, and I'll tell you why in a second.
Iâm about to tell you something that is just going to blow you away:
Soulmates are bullshit.
Heres the thing" before you get your panties in a knot" lets say you live in Seattle, and your soulmate lives in Rome. And you have a fear of flying. You'll spend the rest of your life never finding your soulmate.
Lets say you live in New York, and your â soulmate lives in Florida. The problem is that your Jewish grandparents tortured you as a child by taking you to Florida way too many times and you never want to set foot in that state again. So you only vacation now in the Caribbean.
If you believe that there is one soulmate for you out there in the world, then you’d better start traveling to find that person!
But if you re like me" and you believe that you can have soul connections with people, then you are far more evolved than the person who believes there is one perfect partner for everyone.
I don’t believe that there is one person for everybody, and I never have. (Thats not entirely true, I’ll take that back" my mother tortured me with the whole soulmate idea for a long time and throughout my life I thought I had found mine " I thought Ellen was my soulmate, I thought Karen was my soulmate, then Jessica, then Sonya…)
I never thought of Alison (my recent girlfriend) as my soulmate, I thought of her as an equal. That is probably the reason why that relationship was the best I ve ever had.
I've had women tell me " some even recently" that they thought we were soulmates. I looked at them and said, we might have a soul connection, but we re not soulmates.
I believe that your soul is meant to mate with many different people. You can have soul connections " I think Daphne and I have a soul connection. Wherever I go, that dog follows. The minute I met Daphne " she looked at me and she stuck by my side like glue. Thats a soul connection.
If you want to go even deeper into lala-ville (because I do live in Los Angeles) I do believe in past lives and everything else, and I do believe that souls can come back and find each other. I believe that friends will come back and find each other as different things. I could have been a little girl in another life.
If you ve ever seen the movie Defending Your Life with Albert Brooks" which is one of the funniest movies ever" there is this scene where this big chunky guy is doing past life regression and sees himself licking a lollipop and jumping around like a little girl. It was the funniest scene in the entire world " he absolutely freaked out.
But I do believe that souls come back. There are certain people that you meet " male or female " that you know you are going to be friends with them instantly. It s your souls connecting with each other.
There are women that I’ve dated that I’ve had instant soul connections with. Some of those connections were more lustful than others, and some were just on a friendship level.
So I do believe that you can have soul connections. If there was one person in the world for you, and you screw up that relationship by the time you are 30, does that mean you have to spend the rest of your life alone? Absolutely not.
I could move to Russia tomorrow ��" not speaking any of the language ��" and find soul connections with some of the most amazing women. I bet I could make some great friends. But I’ll never drink the vodka because I’m just not a drinker!
But your soulmate is a farce. It’s bullshit. You can have lots of soulmates and many soul connections, but there is not just one person for you. If there were, there would be a ton of people running around the world accumulating many more frequent flier miles trying to find their soulmate.
Here’s another interesting tidbit for all of you: in different parts of your life, you’ll have different soul connections. You are ready for different types of relationships at different periods of your life.
So you might have had an intense soul connection ��" or you might have thought someone was your soulmate ��" but maybe you weren’t ready for that relationship.
Right now, I’m ready to meet my bootymates!
That’s a new term that nobody uses ��" do you know what a bootymate is? It’s an incredible sexual connection with somebody who doesn’t aggravate you at all. All you do is have amazing sex and you feel like your bodies were made for each other. You feel like your bodies know each other. But you don’t have the aggravation of maintaining a relationship.
You don’t have to say “I love you†��" hell, you don’t even have to say, “I like you!†All you have to do is respect each other’s bodies and respect each other’s space. Respect everything. And know that when you get together, your souls are going to connect because you and she are bootymates!
Craig: The concept of soulmate came from Greek mythology. Back then, people believed that once upon a time everyone had two heads, four arms, and four legs ��" but just one soul.
Then the gods threw down lightning bolts and split everybody in half, so now each person had one head, two arms, and two legs ��" but only half of a soul. You were supposed to spend the rest of your life looking for the other half of your soul.
The problem with this is, just as David said, what if in this huge world, your soulmate lives far away? You might never find them. Or worse yet, what if your soulmate lives in your city and you were having a really shitty day on the day that you first met them? Now you’re still doomed to live the rest of your life alone.
I’m convinced that we meet a potential “soulmate†once or twice a month, but we’re not ready to meet them yet and they just pass us by. I’m convinced that serendipity plays a much bigger role in us finding somebody that is right for us. There are just groups of people out there that are right for each of us, and we end up finding one of those people only when we are ready for it.
David: That’s really interesting, I agree with you. It’s so true it’s unbelievable. I’m going to requote you on that: we probably do run into our soulmate at so many different times over the course of a month ��" except we’re not aware of it, or we’re not ready, or we’re not open for it.
They make a left, you make a right, but you were supposed to meet in the middle. Or you’re in the market and you get a Blackberry text message. As you look down, your soulmate walks right by you. It’s very interesting. I don’t think we spend enough time out there engaging everybody.
I think that if you really follow the stuff that I talk about in the Mastery Series, in the bootcamps, and everything else ��" you could probably find a soulmate once a week. You would be so much more in tune with your environment and with who you are as a person ��" you would know yourself inside and out. You’d be so open to things that you would connect with people just like yourself.
This weekend was really interesting. I was telling one of the guys (Allan actually) that he’s going to date exactly who he is right now ��" shy, quiet, very sweet, very nice, great personality. He’s going to meet a woman who has the same type of qualities yet wants to become a little bit more outgoing. Together they are going to really connect. He’ll make a great husband.
But he has to find enough courage to go out there, open his eyes, and start talking to them. That’s what it takes: courage. People don’t have the courage to talk to each other.
Do you realize that is the biggest fear that most people have: that they don’t have enough courage to go up and talk to people? Yet if they could just walk up to someone and say, “man, I really wanted to come over and talk to you, what’s your name?†the other person would be so receptive, because they feel the same exact way!
Usually people are attracted to people who share the same characteristics that they have. Guys will wish that they could date certain women ��" every guy wants to date the Maxim magazine model ��" but they won’t. And they know that.
So that’s an interesting topic, and an interesting thought ��" and it’s 100% true.
About the Author
Hailed on Fox News, The LA Times, The NY Times, Playboy and more… Legendary Dating Coach Launches a New Revolution For over nearly 20 years David Wygant has been earning the trust of American men and women looking to transform their love lives. Today, no dating coach on earth commands more respect from the media, from other experts, and from real-life individuals.
Learn More About The Soulmates Online Dating
by Francis K. Githinji
When you want to meet one of tens of thousands singles, you need to go to soulmates dating online. This is a UK site that will ensure you meet the man or woman of your dreams. Apart from registering for free, your age does not matter. If you are between 18 and 90, this is a forum to make that easy connection. A busy lifestyle is one of the reasons why people choose to go online to find love. Above this, there is excitement and anticipation like no other mode of meeting. Many all over the world are appreciating the role played by these services. Soulmates online dating has the experience and profiles that you need to get started. Joining is pretty simple. It will require a bit of information about yourself. You will then come up with a username and a password. Follow the easy instructions and you are in. Before you join, look at the various terms and conditions. You must understand them before you accept. Once you have joined, you will get to do two things. You will get to add your profile. A profile is vital and you should write it in the best manner possible. You also get to add your photo. A good photo speaks a thousand positive words and it increases traffic to your profile. A bad photo will speak a thousand negative words. Take time to take a photo that will please singles. After joining, you will have the opportunity to browse through the available profiles.
Soulmates online dating will provide you with great advise, on how to start you new relationship. This advise is free and you can take advantage of this. I came across great tips that will empower anyone searching for a soulmate online. The first thing is to have a positive attitude. This will play the role of guiding you into making wise decisions. People who are negative will attract the same. This means that you might be matched with what you do not want. The next tip is to begin slowly. Do not be in a hurry to make things work; avoid forcing the relationship. A good relationship occurs naturally and spontaneously. The other tip is to write a profile that is honest and sincere. Look for other tips of how to make your profile excellent. There is something about honesty that reflects humility. People usually resist proud people and you do not want to be resisted. The other thing is to post a photo. This is usually referred to as putting a face to a profile. It really does not matter whether your profile is brilliant or not, when you fail to include a photo, you appear not to be serious with the search. Dare to have your photo posted and increase your chances of finding a potential mate.
After you have made a connection with somebody, do not hurry things. Again, begin slow and see where the relationship will lead you. These are just a few tips that you will find on soulmates online dating. If you believe there is a soulmate out there for you, I do not know what you are waiting for. Get connected to the right group of singles and testify to positive results.
About the Author
Francis K. Githinji Is An Online Dating Expert. His Latest ProjectSoulmates Online Dating Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Soulmates Online Dating
When you want to meet one of tens of thousands singles, you need to go to soulmates dating online. This is a UK site that will ensure you meet the man or woman of your dreams. Apart from registering for free, your age does not matter. If you are between 18 and 90, this is a forum to make that easy connection. A busy lifestyle is one of the reasons why people choose to go online to find love. Above this, there is excitement and anticipation like no other mode of meeting. Many all over the world are appreciating the role played by these services. Soulmates online dating has the experience and profiles that you need to get started. Joining is pretty simple. It will require a bit of information about yourself. You will then come up with a username and a password. Follow the easy instructions and you are in. Before you join, look at the various terms and conditions. You must understand them before you accept. Once you have joined, you will get to do two things. You will get to add your profile. A profile is vital and you should write it in the best manner possible. You also get to add your photo. A good photo speaks a thousand positive words and it increases traffic to your profile. A bad photo will speak a thousand negative words. Take time to take a photo that will please singles. After joining, you will have the opportunity to browse through the available profiles.
Soulmates online dating will provide you with great advise, on how to start you new relationship. This advise is free and you can take advantage of this. I came across great tips that will empower anyone searching for a soulmate online. The first thing is to have a positive attitude. This will play the role of guiding you into making wise decisions. People who are negative will attract the same. This means that you might be matched with what you do not want. The next tip is to begin slowly. Do not be in a hurry to make things work; avoid forcing the relationship. A good relationship occurs naturally and spontaneously. The other tip is to write a profile that is honest and sincere. Look for other tips of how to make your profile excellent. There is something about honesty that reflects humility. People usually resist proud people and you do not want to be resisted. The other thing is to post a photo. This is usually referred to as putting a face to a profile. It really does not matter whether your profile is brilliant or not, when you fail to include a photo, you appear not to be serious with the search. Dare to have your photo posted and increase your chances of finding a potential mate.
After you have made a connection with somebody, do not hurry things. Again, begin slow and see where the relationship will lead you. These are just a few tips that you will find on soulmates online dating. If you believe there is a soulmate out there for you, I do not know what you are waiting for. Get connected to the right group of singles and testify to positive results.
About the Author
Francis K. Githinji Is An Online Dating Expert. His Latest ProjectSoulmates Online Dating Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Soulmates Online Dating
SOULMATES: How to Find Yours -- And Who Will Help You
by Kate Falken
"Soulmates. Everyone is looking for one. The term has become a cliche. But, do they exist? What are they really? The romanticized version is that your soulmate is your perfect twin flame - your one true love. The belief is that somewhere, on the earth plane, walks the one person to complete you." Psychic Fyrewolf of Psychic Scene.
So, exactly what are Soul Mates and how can we find ours?
"Soulmates," Fyrewolf goes on to explain, "and twin flames are not the same thing. The one true love, destined to be your 'other half' happens with odds greater than that of being hit by lightning. And even then, should you find one another, you are not assured of a blissful existence. Look at Tristan and Isolde.. Romeo and Juliet... Anthony and Cleopatra. Most cultures have their own myths built around these archetypes.
"None of them went on to live fruitful, happy lives. They are tragic figures immortalized by their pain. But, would their love have survived if they had lived? Soulmates refers to the souls that we tend to continue incarnating with: the ones who help teach us lessons. Is there one right person for us? No, it's a matter of degrees. In predictive sciences, such as numerology and astrology, we look at points of compatibility to see how well suited you are. Is that your soulmate? It all depends on the lessons you need to learn. A soulmate is someone you share a deep affinity with, but that someone may not just be your spouse. It could be your parent, your best friend, your child, your sibling, even your mentor."
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Ellie, from Crystallinks.com explains: "Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles....You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them."
"Karma is the responsibility shared between soul mates. Often soul mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realm. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes, the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you."
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I think the answer to this question is very nicely addressed by Hugh Lynn Cayce, son of Edgar Cayce (otherwise known as "The Sleeping Profit"). The following extract was taken from Edgar Cayce.org and the Association for Research and Enlightenment. "...We should, no doubt, be cautious about leaving a current marriage partner merely because of an attraction to someone else. In all likelihood, the very same problems and 'opportunities' we are currently facing would be the same regardless of which partner we have in our lives. In relationships, we most often come to terms with those things we need to work on in ourselves, even though we might sometimes think of our partner as being the source of our frustration. Those who come across the idea of soul mates after having already married can still rest assured that their partner is, in fact a Soul Mate."
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According to the website, "Universal Oneness Unites" at www.uou.to/soulmates.htm, "Relationships are mirrors that help us to learn more about ourselves...There are three different types of relationship mirrors. One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So, don't get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go....A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now in your path. "If an issue or person has an emotional 'charge' to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to. The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal or look up to. Take a look at your various relationships and see which group they fall into. By knowing this you will gain insight into yourself. Self understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors, not to 'fix' the other person, but to look at yourself and learn." *
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In Thomas Moore's book, SOULMATES, the author makes a strong case for removing the logical mind from the relationship. In essence, he suggests that what we all fail to understand about relationships is that they don't take into account the element of magick that transcends rational thought and defies technical dissection. Moore writes:
"A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace....Marriage is by nature miraculous and magical. We do not understand it and cannot know where it is headed."
To get that special and powerful insight into your love life and relationships that only a psychic or clairvoyant can give you, check out:
Psychic Connect
Connecting you to the best Romance psychics on the net! Come read detailed profiles of the best psychics online today. Also check out their articles, free Psychic Chatroom, your zodiac sign, and your horoscope...
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Kate Falken http://www.kathleenfalken.0catch.com
"Soulmates. Everyone is looking for one. The term has become a cliche. But, do they exist? What are they really? The romanticized version is that your soulmate is your perfect twin flame - your one true love. The belief is that somewhere, on the earth plane, walks the one person to complete you." Psychic Fyrewolf of Psychic Scene.
So, exactly what are Soul Mates and how can we find ours?
"Soulmates," Fyrewolf goes on to explain, "and twin flames are not the same thing. The one true love, destined to be your 'other half' happens with odds greater than that of being hit by lightning. And even then, should you find one another, you are not assured of a blissful existence. Look at Tristan and Isolde.. Romeo and Juliet... Anthony and Cleopatra. Most cultures have their own myths built around these archetypes.
"None of them went on to live fruitful, happy lives. They are tragic figures immortalized by their pain. But, would their love have survived if they had lived? Soulmates refers to the souls that we tend to continue incarnating with: the ones who help teach us lessons. Is there one right person for us? No, it's a matter of degrees. In predictive sciences, such as numerology and astrology, we look at points of compatibility to see how well suited you are. Is that your soulmate? It all depends on the lessons you need to learn. A soulmate is someone you share a deep affinity with, but that someone may not just be your spouse. It could be your parent, your best friend, your child, your sibling, even your mentor."
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Ellie, from Crystallinks.com explains: "Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles....You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them."
"Karma is the responsibility shared between soul mates. Often soul mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realm. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes, the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you."
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I think the answer to this question is very nicely addressed by Hugh Lynn Cayce, son of Edgar Cayce (otherwise known as "The Sleeping Profit"). The following extract was taken from Edgar Cayce.org and the Association for Research and Enlightenment. "...We should, no doubt, be cautious about leaving a current marriage partner merely because of an attraction to someone else. In all likelihood, the very same problems and 'opportunities' we are currently facing would be the same regardless of which partner we have in our lives. In relationships, we most often come to terms with those things we need to work on in ourselves, even though we might sometimes think of our partner as being the source of our frustration. Those who come across the idea of soul mates after having already married can still rest assured that their partner is, in fact a Soul Mate."
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According to the website, "Universal Oneness Unites" at www.uou.to/soulmates.htm, "Relationships are mirrors that help us to learn more about ourselves...There are three different types of relationship mirrors. One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So, don't get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go....A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now in your path. "If an issue or person has an emotional 'charge' to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to. The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal or look up to. Take a look at your various relationships and see which group they fall into. By knowing this you will gain insight into yourself. Self understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors, not to 'fix' the other person, but to look at yourself and learn." *
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In Thomas Moore's book, SOULMATES, the author makes a strong case for removing the logical mind from the relationship. In essence, he suggests that what we all fail to understand about relationships is that they don't take into account the element of magick that transcends rational thought and defies technical dissection. Moore writes:
"A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace....Marriage is by nature miraculous and magical. We do not understand it and cannot know where it is headed."
To get that special and powerful insight into your love life and relationships that only a psychic or clairvoyant can give you, check out:
Psychic Connect
Connecting you to the best Romance psychics on the net! Come read detailed profiles of the best psychics online today. Also check out their articles, free Psychic Chatroom, your zodiac sign, and your horoscope...
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Kate Falken http://www.kathleenfalken.0catch.com
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Definitions of Soulmates
Classic Meaning of Soulmates
The concepts of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.
Spiritual Soulmate Concepts
Many religions and spiritual paths believe in reincarnation and the concept of karma. Through reincarnation, soulmates may spend many lifetimes together in past lives. Other spiritual methods of searching for one's soulmate are astrology, numerology, palm reading, personality types, and magic. Modern spritual paths often blend western and eastern philosophies.
Companion Soulmates
These are people that we encounter through their life. These are usually friends, teachers, mentors, or other people who have helped you achieving a life's goal or helped you out of a crisis.
Twin Soulmates
These types of soulmate are your closest friends or a person whom you really click with. According to those who believe in reincarnation, you have already met them in a past life, and in this life you are continuing the relationship. There is an emotional bond between these soulmates and each is able to sense the feelings of each other..
Twin Flame Soulmates
This is the most popular type of soulmate. There is usually one twin flame soulmate for each of us. Twin flame soulmates have spent multiple lifetimes together in past lives. There is incredible chemistry and attraction towards each other. They "complete" each other and only few lucky people are able to find their twin flame soulmate. Twin flame soulmates, if separated, usually suffer enormous pain.
The concepts of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.
Spiritual Soulmate Concepts
Many religions and spiritual paths believe in reincarnation and the concept of karma. Through reincarnation, soulmates may spend many lifetimes together in past lives. Other spiritual methods of searching for one's soulmate are astrology, numerology, palm reading, personality types, and magic. Modern spritual paths often blend western and eastern philosophies.
Companion Soulmates
These are people that we encounter through their life. These are usually friends, teachers, mentors, or other people who have helped you achieving a life's goal or helped you out of a crisis.
Twin Soulmates
These types of soulmate are your closest friends or a person whom you really click with. According to those who believe in reincarnation, you have already met them in a past life, and in this life you are continuing the relationship. There is an emotional bond between these soulmates and each is able to sense the feelings of each other..
Twin Flame Soulmates
This is the most popular type of soulmate. There is usually one twin flame soulmate for each of us. Twin flame soulmates have spent multiple lifetimes together in past lives. There is incredible chemistry and attraction towards each other. They "complete" each other and only few lucky people are able to find their twin flame soulmate. Twin flame soulmates, if separated, usually suffer enormous pain.
4 Proven Steps to Find Your Soulmate
by Elena Krasnova
Many people struggle in loneliness or in relationships that are not right for them. Some have given up hope to find that perfect someone. But in reality, that perfect someone, your soulmate, is not that hard to find. Here we will examine steps you can take today to find your soulmate.
1)You need to identify your limiting beliefs about soulmates and relationships in general. For example, if you find yourself thinking, or saying, that relationships are hassle and pain, or that all men are jerks, or that all women are materialistic, or that soulmates are just a fairytale dream, then you are programming your subconscious mind to make all these things happen in your life! Analyze your thoughts and language and replace them with positive statements that will allow you to meet the partner of your dreams.
2)Decide what you want in your soulmate. That's right! You can be as picky as you want. Don't cut yourself short of anything. Write these things down, make a list! The main reason most people don't get what they truly want in a partner, is because they don't really know what they truly want. So, they just attract people by default, and most often those people are not right for them. Be clear on the qualities and characteristics you want in your soulmate.
3)Imagine how you want your perfect relationship to be. Down to the last detail. If you want romance, picture clearly a romantic evening with your future partner. Create the feelings you would feel that evening. Picture exactly how you want your partner to treat you and how you feel about each other. Believe me, this plays a huge part! Do this visualization as often as you can, and try to do it with feeling.
4)Don't get too attached to how and when you will meet your soulmate. Many people do the first 3 steps with perfection, but miss out on this important last one. They do the above exercises religiously, to a point of obsession, frantically asking: "When is my soulmate gonna appear?!" By doing so, they are actually canceling out the above 3 steps! It's important to do the above steps, but at the same time let go of how and when your soulmate will enter your life. Know what you want, but don't become obsessed with it. As soon as you let go, your soulmate will appear when you least expect it.
To find out more about techniques on how to actively find your soulmate, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Many people struggle in loneliness or in relationships that are not right for them. Some have given up hope to find that perfect someone. But in reality, that perfect someone, your soulmate, is not that hard to find. Here we will examine steps you can take today to find your soulmate.
1)You need to identify your limiting beliefs about soulmates and relationships in general. For example, if you find yourself thinking, or saying, that relationships are hassle and pain, or that all men are jerks, or that all women are materialistic, or that soulmates are just a fairytale dream, then you are programming your subconscious mind to make all these things happen in your life! Analyze your thoughts and language and replace them with positive statements that will allow you to meet the partner of your dreams.
2)Decide what you want in your soulmate. That's right! You can be as picky as you want. Don't cut yourself short of anything. Write these things down, make a list! The main reason most people don't get what they truly want in a partner, is because they don't really know what they truly want. So, they just attract people by default, and most often those people are not right for them. Be clear on the qualities and characteristics you want in your soulmate.
3)Imagine how you want your perfect relationship to be. Down to the last detail. If you want romance, picture clearly a romantic evening with your future partner. Create the feelings you would feel that evening. Picture exactly how you want your partner to treat you and how you feel about each other. Believe me, this plays a huge part! Do this visualization as often as you can, and try to do it with feeling.
4)Don't get too attached to how and when you will meet your soulmate. Many people do the first 3 steps with perfection, but miss out on this important last one. They do the above exercises religiously, to a point of obsession, frantically asking: "When is my soulmate gonna appear?!" By doing so, they are actually canceling out the above 3 steps! It's important to do the above steps, but at the same time let go of how and when your soulmate will enter your life. Know what you want, but don't become obsessed with it. As soon as you let go, your soulmate will appear when you least expect it.
To find out more about techniques on how to actively find your soulmate, please visit www.thesoulmateguide.com
Considering Soul Mates
From Stephen Petullo, for About.com
Let Go of the Prince/Princess Charming Syndrome
We are programmed to believe we need to find the one perfect person to meet all of our needs for the rest of our lives. This is impossible, but many still strive for it and then think they "failed" if their expectations aren't met. Distorted idealism and sky-high expectations set you up for disappointment. Stop looking for the soul mate to fulfill your every need for the rest of your life and, instead, be open to soul mates with whom you are compatible and share chemistry.
Reconsider Religious Dogma / Avoid Marrying to Improve a Relationship
(Actual quote from a letter to Stephen and Scott's advice column) "I've been in relationship for 17 years and we are moving in slow motion. We plan on getting married within the next couple months because I feel part of the problem of our stagnation is we are not right with the Lord. I know we love each other but this relationship leaves me feeling so empty most of the time and I feel like I can't seem to leave it." Stephen's Response: I don't believe there is a judging God or that a couple is "living in sin" if they cohabit without marrying. Therefore, the main problem there may be your guilt about something you don`t need to feel guilty about. However, marrying someone to improve a relationship is like gambling to become rich. Most of the time, you will only lose what you had. Marriage can be a wonderful experience, but from what you wrote, it's not appropriate for your situation. Pause, step back and reflect until you become aware of what`s best for you and your partner.
Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You
Do yourself a favor and forgive and release everyone who has ever hurt you. You'll remain trapped until you do. Forgiveness isn't about letting the person who hurt you off the hook. It's about releasing the anger and resentment or guilt that you harbor within, so you can get on with your life. This is an on-going process; every time you think of the person or experience, feel the forgiveness until you mean it. Also, try to think of them as your teachers instead of enemies and ask yourself what you needed to learn from the experience.
Let Go of the Prince/Princess Charming Syndrome
We are programmed to believe we need to find the one perfect person to meet all of our needs for the rest of our lives. This is impossible, but many still strive for it and then think they "failed" if their expectations aren't met. Distorted idealism and sky-high expectations set you up for disappointment. Stop looking for the soul mate to fulfill your every need for the rest of your life and, instead, be open to soul mates with whom you are compatible and share chemistry.
Reconsider Religious Dogma / Avoid Marrying to Improve a Relationship
(Actual quote from a letter to Stephen and Scott's advice column) "I've been in relationship for 17 years and we are moving in slow motion. We plan on getting married within the next couple months because I feel part of the problem of our stagnation is we are not right with the Lord. I know we love each other but this relationship leaves me feeling so empty most of the time and I feel like I can't seem to leave it." Stephen's Response: I don't believe there is a judging God or that a couple is "living in sin" if they cohabit without marrying. Therefore, the main problem there may be your guilt about something you don`t need to feel guilty about. However, marrying someone to improve a relationship is like gambling to become rich. Most of the time, you will only lose what you had. Marriage can be a wonderful experience, but from what you wrote, it's not appropriate for your situation. Pause, step back and reflect until you become aware of what`s best for you and your partner.
Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You
Do yourself a favor and forgive and release everyone who has ever hurt you. You'll remain trapped until you do. Forgiveness isn't about letting the person who hurt you off the hook. It's about releasing the anger and resentment or guilt that you harbor within, so you can get on with your life. This is an on-going process; every time you think of the person or experience, feel the forgiveness until you mean it. Also, try to think of them as your teachers instead of enemies and ask yourself what you needed to learn from the experience.
The Truth About Soul Mates
By Kelly Wallace
This is one of the areas that people ask about the most. Who, what and where is their soul mate? And how to find that person?
The truth is we have more than one soul mate in each life. Thank goodness! Who wants to try and track down that ONE elusive person? Since we have had many lives, we have many soul connections and soul mates. Here are other frequently asked questions about the mate of our soul...
How will I find a soul mate? Never fear about finding your soul mate. You WILL come together. And you have a better chance if you are open to it. Being open to this means that you know you deserve a true love and that you aren't so worried about finding him/her that you actually create a block. Our souls can get rather complicated on us!
How do I know if he/she is my soul mate? This is easier than you think. People often believe that a soul mate union is pure bliss. Not so! A soul mate union is very deep, indeed! But a soul mate will also challenge you, frustrate you, and dig in so deep it feels like a thorn at times. Simply put, it's a person that you can't get out of your system.
So are some soul mate unions actually negative? Nothing having to do with the soul is negative. Everything we go through here on earth in our human form is presented to us so that our souls can learn, love, and grow.
Should I stay with a soul mate who is making me miserable? NEVER! You deserve to be happy and have true love. Just because a soul mate has come into your life and you live in misery doesn't mean you have to stay! You are/were with this person in order to learn something. Believe it or not, many times it's the simple lesson of letting go and raising our self-esteem! And don't forget, they are going through their own soul lessons. If they are stuck in a low place, (anger problems, abuse, addiction, etc.) they are here to learn self-control, love and tolerance, but you shouldn't stick around while they refuse to learn! Once you move on, the lesson is learned and you can now find a more positive relationship. Never stay with anyone who abuses you in ANY way! That is not a soul lesson for you to learn!
How do I attract my soul mate? Our energies reach far and wide and our souls will recognize one another and come together at some point. The main problem that I find is people who crave love so badly that they jump into the first relationship that comes along, stay in it and end up miserable, find someone else before they're even out of that relationship, then they attract more of the same...so on and so on. Our energy is what attracts people to us. If we're in a bad place in our life or feel badly about ourselves, we will attract a person who is attracted to the energy we have at that time. So it's wise to be sure your self-esteem is in a good place and that the energy from your current/previous relationship isn't affecting you.
Kelly Wallace is a certified counselor, multi-published author, teacher, speaker, and radio show host. She's also self-proclaimed workaholic, single mother of five daughters, and a professional psychic who reads for over one thousand clients per year. You can visit her at:
http://www.PsychicReadingsbyDrKelly.com
http://www.KellyWallace.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kelly_Wallace
This is one of the areas that people ask about the most. Who, what and where is their soul mate? And how to find that person?
The truth is we have more than one soul mate in each life. Thank goodness! Who wants to try and track down that ONE elusive person? Since we have had many lives, we have many soul connections and soul mates. Here are other frequently asked questions about the mate of our soul...
How will I find a soul mate? Never fear about finding your soul mate. You WILL come together. And you have a better chance if you are open to it. Being open to this means that you know you deserve a true love and that you aren't so worried about finding him/her that you actually create a block. Our souls can get rather complicated on us!
How do I know if he/she is my soul mate? This is easier than you think. People often believe that a soul mate union is pure bliss. Not so! A soul mate union is very deep, indeed! But a soul mate will also challenge you, frustrate you, and dig in so deep it feels like a thorn at times. Simply put, it's a person that you can't get out of your system.
So are some soul mate unions actually negative? Nothing having to do with the soul is negative. Everything we go through here on earth in our human form is presented to us so that our souls can learn, love, and grow.
Should I stay with a soul mate who is making me miserable? NEVER! You deserve to be happy and have true love. Just because a soul mate has come into your life and you live in misery doesn't mean you have to stay! You are/were with this person in order to learn something. Believe it or not, many times it's the simple lesson of letting go and raising our self-esteem! And don't forget, they are going through their own soul lessons. If they are stuck in a low place, (anger problems, abuse, addiction, etc.) they are here to learn self-control, love and tolerance, but you shouldn't stick around while they refuse to learn! Once you move on, the lesson is learned and you can now find a more positive relationship. Never stay with anyone who abuses you in ANY way! That is not a soul lesson for you to learn!
How do I attract my soul mate? Our energies reach far and wide and our souls will recognize one another and come together at some point. The main problem that I find is people who crave love so badly that they jump into the first relationship that comes along, stay in it and end up miserable, find someone else before they're even out of that relationship, then they attract more of the same...so on and so on. Our energy is what attracts people to us. If we're in a bad place in our life or feel badly about ourselves, we will attract a person who is attracted to the energy we have at that time. So it's wise to be sure your self-esteem is in a good place and that the energy from your current/previous relationship isn't affecting you.
Kelly Wallace is a certified counselor, multi-published author, teacher, speaker, and radio show host. She's also self-proclaimed workaholic, single mother of five daughters, and a professional psychic who reads for over one thousand clients per year. You can visit her at:
http://www.PsychicReadingsbyDrKelly.com
http://www.KellyWallace.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kelly_Wallace
How To Recognize Soul Mate Characteristics in Your Marriage
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com
If you believe in the soul mate concept, there may be times you question your marriage. Here are soul mate characteristics that can be in a marriage.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: varies
Here's How:
1. In order to recognize your soul mate, you must first know yourself.
2. Soul mate marriages can be well balanced, strong, and positive. There should be a lack of intimidation, manipulation, or abuse in a marriage of soul mates. A soul mate should make you feel safe.
3. A relationship with a soul mate is expected to be a natural fit and usually feels like it is meant to be. Even so, every marriage, even a marriage of soul mates, takes the two spouses giving priority to their marriage relationship.
4. A soul mate partner often feels like a mirror to their spouse. Though this does sound a bit boring.
5. A marriage to a soul mate is filled with honesty and support. But then, so are successful marriages of couples who don't believe they are soul mates.
6. There is a sense of familiarity and mutuality in a marriage to a soul mate as well as in long lasting marriages.
7. Soul mate marriages can be healthy, passionate and harmonious. Soul mate partners can easily get a lot done by working together.
8. Couples who are soul mates often take joy in watching the growth of one another.
9. A soul mate will accept who you are, will bring out the best in you, challenge you, and be your best friend. A soul mate will not require you to change. Hopefully, this is true of your spouse -- soul mate or not.
10. Soul mates relish small moments together and cherish their commitment to their marriage. Again -- shouldn't this be a way happy married couples live?
Tips:
1. Be wary of looking for a mate who is ideal and who feels and thinks exactly the way you do. No one can live up to that kind of standard. Soul mates don't agree on everything.
2. Don't use the soul mate concept as an excuse to walk away from your commitment to your marriage.
3. Remember you can still have difficult times even when married to your soul mate. Romance is a gamble. Marriage takes attentiveness.
4. Bottom line: Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage.
If you believe in the soul mate concept, there may be times you question your marriage. Here are soul mate characteristics that can be in a marriage.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: varies
Here's How:
1. In order to recognize your soul mate, you must first know yourself.
2. Soul mate marriages can be well balanced, strong, and positive. There should be a lack of intimidation, manipulation, or abuse in a marriage of soul mates. A soul mate should make you feel safe.
3. A relationship with a soul mate is expected to be a natural fit and usually feels like it is meant to be. Even so, every marriage, even a marriage of soul mates, takes the two spouses giving priority to their marriage relationship.
4. A soul mate partner often feels like a mirror to their spouse. Though this does sound a bit boring.
5. A marriage to a soul mate is filled with honesty and support. But then, so are successful marriages of couples who don't believe they are soul mates.
6. There is a sense of familiarity and mutuality in a marriage to a soul mate as well as in long lasting marriages.
7. Soul mate marriages can be healthy, passionate and harmonious. Soul mate partners can easily get a lot done by working together.
8. Couples who are soul mates often take joy in watching the growth of one another.
9. A soul mate will accept who you are, will bring out the best in you, challenge you, and be your best friend. A soul mate will not require you to change. Hopefully, this is true of your spouse -- soul mate or not.
10. Soul mates relish small moments together and cherish their commitment to their marriage. Again -- shouldn't this be a way happy married couples live?
Tips:
1. Be wary of looking for a mate who is ideal and who feels and thinks exactly the way you do. No one can live up to that kind of standard. Soul mates don't agree on everything.
2. Don't use the soul mate concept as an excuse to walk away from your commitment to your marriage.
3. Remember you can still have difficult times even when married to your soul mate. Romance is a gamble. Marriage takes attentiveness.
4. Bottom line: Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage.
SOUL MATES
The Soul Mate Myth & Challenges in Soul Mate Marriages
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com
The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
However, there are several viewpoints as to how to describe "soul mates" ... even on how to spell it! Some people spell the term as a whole word, soulmate and others, including us, prefer to keep it as two words, soul mate.
Soul Mate Descriptions
* General Belief: Many people believe that soul mates can accept and love every part of the other's personality and that life with a soul mate is easy and natural.
* Our Belief: We don't believe a soul mate is the "ideal or one and only person" in someone's life. Our definition of soul mates is individuals who both want their marriage to be a great one. Their marriage relationship feels like a natural fit. Although they, like all married couples, need to put a priority on their marriage, it is not hard to do because they have a sense of being at ease and connected with one another.
Soul Mate Challenges
If you believe in the idea of only one soul mate for each person, you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times easily. That may not always be the case.
Just because you are in tune to one another, each of you are willing to take responsibility for your role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one -- your marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing.
If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won't be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment. Another danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted.
There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage if you think your spouse isn't your soul mate. If you think that marriage to your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality.
If you think you've not married your soul mate, don't just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can't find your perceived soul mate if you haven't found yourself first.
More Soul Mate Descriptions
* Reincarnation:
Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation. The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
* Other Half:
Others believe, like the ancient Greek philosopher Plato, that a soul mate is a person's "other half". This concept was the basis of the movie, The Butcher's Wife where the idea of "split-aparts" searching for one another was explored. People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with.
* A dictionary definition is:
One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. Someone for whom you have a deep affinity. A person temperamentally suited to another.
* Predestination:
The movie Still Breathing examines the thought that people are drawn together as soul mates by destiny or fate and that being with our soul mate is something we have no control over. This idea of predestination and connection even after death between soul mates was also examined in the movie What Dreams May Come.
* Making Life Come to Life:
Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "
* Profound Connection:
Thomas Moore, in his book Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, page xvii, describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com
The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
However, there are several viewpoints as to how to describe "soul mates" ... even on how to spell it! Some people spell the term as a whole word, soulmate and others, including us, prefer to keep it as two words, soul mate.
Soul Mate Descriptions
* General Belief: Many people believe that soul mates can accept and love every part of the other's personality and that life with a soul mate is easy and natural.
* Our Belief: We don't believe a soul mate is the "ideal or one and only person" in someone's life. Our definition of soul mates is individuals who both want their marriage to be a great one. Their marriage relationship feels like a natural fit. Although they, like all married couples, need to put a priority on their marriage, it is not hard to do because they have a sense of being at ease and connected with one another.
Soul Mate Challenges
If you believe in the idea of only one soul mate for each person, you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times easily. That may not always be the case.
Just because you are in tune to one another, each of you are willing to take responsibility for your role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one -- your marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing.
If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won't be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment. Another danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted.
There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage if you think your spouse isn't your soul mate. If you think that marriage to your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality.
If you think you've not married your soul mate, don't just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can't find your perceived soul mate if you haven't found yourself first.
More Soul Mate Descriptions
* Reincarnation:
Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation. The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
* Other Half:
Others believe, like the ancient Greek philosopher Plato, that a soul mate is a person's "other half". This concept was the basis of the movie, The Butcher's Wife where the idea of "split-aparts" searching for one another was explored. People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with.
* A dictionary definition is:
One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. Someone for whom you have a deep affinity. A person temperamentally suited to another.
* Predestination:
The movie Still Breathing examines the thought that people are drawn together as soul mates by destiny or fate and that being with our soul mate is something we have no control over. This idea of predestination and connection even after death between soul mates was also examined in the movie What Dreams May Come.
* Making Life Come to Life:
Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "
* Profound Connection:
Thomas Moore, in his book Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, page xvii, describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
A Psychic Peak At Soul Mates
Soul Mates
The term soul mate signifies many different things to many people. Some feel that soulmates are souls that you've experienced in past, parallel or future lifetimes. They can also be aspects of your soul experiencing at this time in a different body. We are all multidimensional beings, your soul having experiences, in many realities, at the same time. As we all develop from the same reference of consciousness creation, we could say that we really actually have less than six degrees of separation.
Soul mate is also a term sometimes used to denominate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, and/or compatibility. Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which don't always include romance or marriage. They can be close friends, colleagues, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental, games of third dimension with us. They can affect relationships in a positive or negative way contingent on the emotional issues of the people implicated.
Soulmates may come together to work out issues or play reverse roles than that of which they are experiencing elsewhere in another time or place.
Anyone who is in your biological family, or adopted family, or pseudo-family, is likely a soul mate to you. You may feel closer to certain souls, because you have pulled to them as they are on the same frequency as you or because you would like to work out past tense issues with the soul concerned. Karma can come into play and to responsibilities shared by soul mates.
Sometimes its thought that soul mates come together to bring another twin soul into the physical realms. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children, the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. This may explain divorce for some of us. Sometimes the karma in a family is between mother and child, so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes the karma is with the father and the mother leaves the child to the fathers care. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who's entered the family before or after you.
As the soul seeks unity with its self, the journey home, (twin flame connections), it tends to think of a soul mate as The One (which is actually the source of creation) who is there for us and to make us feel complete. The other half of us so to speak. In truth, very few partnerships even very happy ones are a true soulmate connection of twin flames. When it is the case, you may simply 'know it' on a psychic level.
Soul mates can bring out the best and worst in each other, depending on their issues, and often no matter how hard someone tries to hang on to such a partnership, the lesson may be to let go. Any god psychic will tell during a psychic love reading that in your life time, you will get the chance at many 'soul mate' type partnerships, so don't disappear if a relationship folds, another chance at a 'soul mate' partnership is sure to be just around the corner.
by psychhcs.iyxbtooar
The term soul mate signifies many different things to many people. Some feel that soulmates are souls that you've experienced in past, parallel or future lifetimes. They can also be aspects of your soul experiencing at this time in a different body. We are all multidimensional beings, your soul having experiences, in many realities, at the same time. As we all develop from the same reference of consciousness creation, we could say that we really actually have less than six degrees of separation.
Soul mate is also a term sometimes used to denominate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, and/or compatibility. Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which don't always include romance or marriage. They can be close friends, colleagues, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental, games of third dimension with us. They can affect relationships in a positive or negative way contingent on the emotional issues of the people implicated.
Soulmates may come together to work out issues or play reverse roles than that of which they are experiencing elsewhere in another time or place.
Anyone who is in your biological family, or adopted family, or pseudo-family, is likely a soul mate to you. You may feel closer to certain souls, because you have pulled to them as they are on the same frequency as you or because you would like to work out past tense issues with the soul concerned. Karma can come into play and to responsibilities shared by soul mates.
Sometimes its thought that soul mates come together to bring another twin soul into the physical realms. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children, the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. This may explain divorce for some of us. Sometimes the karma in a family is between mother and child, so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes the karma is with the father and the mother leaves the child to the fathers care. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who's entered the family before or after you.
As the soul seeks unity with its self, the journey home, (twin flame connections), it tends to think of a soul mate as The One (which is actually the source of creation) who is there for us and to make us feel complete. The other half of us so to speak. In truth, very few partnerships even very happy ones are a true soulmate connection of twin flames. When it is the case, you may simply 'know it' on a psychic level.
Soul mates can bring out the best and worst in each other, depending on their issues, and often no matter how hard someone tries to hang on to such a partnership, the lesson may be to let go. Any god psychic will tell during a psychic love reading that in your life time, you will get the chance at many 'soul mate' type partnerships, so don't disappear if a relationship folds, another chance at a 'soul mate' partnership is sure to be just around the corner.
by psychhcs.iyxbtooar
5 Common Myths About Soulmate Relationships
There are many myths about the definition of a soulmate and what a soulmate relationship is all about. Let's discuss and debunk some of these myths in this article.
Myth #1: "There is only ONE soulmate for each of us out there". It's important to understand that your soul is compatible with more than one other soul on this planet. Essentially, your soul is part of an energy pool that is shared among many other beings, all of whom could easily resonate well with you and be able to form a soulmate relationship. So, there isn't just one person out there that is a perfect match for you in terms of a love relationship. That would be like saying that you can only have one good friend in your entire lifetime, which is simply not true. Sure, you can have some friends with whom you have more of a connection than others, but, chances are, you're going to have more than one good friend in your life.
Myth #2: "Soulmate relationships last forever." Having met your soulmate doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship will last until both of your physical deaths. Some soulmate relationships don't work out, but that doesn't mean that those relationships were wrong or useless. Certain people must enter our lives at certain points to teach us valuable lessons and contribute to our soul's growth in some way. But they don't necessarily have to stay in our lives forever (although, of course, some do and that's because they continue to contribute to our soul's growth rather than to its detriment).
Myth #3: "Only lucky people get to be in soulmate relationships." Forming and maintaining soulmate relationships has nothing to do with luck! Every soulmate relationship is a carefully chosen connection of your energy (essence) to another person's energy (essence). Calling this "luck" is almost an insult to the soul, as it gives us a loophole, an excuse as to why we can't have a soulmate relationship. It's a justification based on our past and/or present situation and/or what the majority says. The fact is that finding a soulmate relationship is very much in your hands. It is up to you to get your "logical" mind out of the way and attract your soulmate. The main reason that people don't attract their soulmates is that they have certain mental blocks that don't allow them to engage in a soulmate relationship (because of a traumatic past, for example). Click here to learn more about how your own mind can sabotage you.
Myth #4: "Soulmate relationships only happen to the chosen few". As we said in debunking Myth #1, your soul is part of an energy pool that is shared among many other beings, all of whom could easily resonate well with you and be able to form a soulmate relationship. That means that every single person on earth can have thousands of soulmates! You can literally have your pick of soulmates right now! It is only a matter of finding them and putting in a little effort to maintain the relationship you form, which is what The Soulmate Guide is all about.
Myth #5: "Soulmate relationships are hard to find". This one is kind of like a self-fulfilling prophecy. What that means is that when you hear, say, and emphasize something enough, you believe it, and the outcome turns out just like you believed. In other words, if you think, believe, or say something is hard, your subconscious mind will make you perceive it as hard. This is not only true about soulmate relationships, but just about everything in life. In the case of soulmates, if you believe they are hard to find, your mind will literally make you blind to all the potential soulmates that are out there for you. You will most likely not even see them! So, realizing that out of the thousands of soulmates you are compatible with, meeting at least a couple is quite likely, is a great first step toward attracting your soulmate.
Myth #1: "There is only ONE soulmate for each of us out there". It's important to understand that your soul is compatible with more than one other soul on this planet. Essentially, your soul is part of an energy pool that is shared among many other beings, all of whom could easily resonate well with you and be able to form a soulmate relationship. So, there isn't just one person out there that is a perfect match for you in terms of a love relationship. That would be like saying that you can only have one good friend in your entire lifetime, which is simply not true. Sure, you can have some friends with whom you have more of a connection than others, but, chances are, you're going to have more than one good friend in your life.
Myth #2: "Soulmate relationships last forever." Having met your soulmate doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship will last until both of your physical deaths. Some soulmate relationships don't work out, but that doesn't mean that those relationships were wrong or useless. Certain people must enter our lives at certain points to teach us valuable lessons and contribute to our soul's growth in some way. But they don't necessarily have to stay in our lives forever (although, of course, some do and that's because they continue to contribute to our soul's growth rather than to its detriment).
Myth #3: "Only lucky people get to be in soulmate relationships." Forming and maintaining soulmate relationships has nothing to do with luck! Every soulmate relationship is a carefully chosen connection of your energy (essence) to another person's energy (essence). Calling this "luck" is almost an insult to the soul, as it gives us a loophole, an excuse as to why we can't have a soulmate relationship. It's a justification based on our past and/or present situation and/or what the majority says. The fact is that finding a soulmate relationship is very much in your hands. It is up to you to get your "logical" mind out of the way and attract your soulmate. The main reason that people don't attract their soulmates is that they have certain mental blocks that don't allow them to engage in a soulmate relationship (because of a traumatic past, for example). Click here to learn more about how your own mind can sabotage you.
Myth #4: "Soulmate relationships only happen to the chosen few". As we said in debunking Myth #1, your soul is part of an energy pool that is shared among many other beings, all of whom could easily resonate well with you and be able to form a soulmate relationship. That means that every single person on earth can have thousands of soulmates! You can literally have your pick of soulmates right now! It is only a matter of finding them and putting in a little effort to maintain the relationship you form, which is what The Soulmate Guide is all about.
Myth #5: "Soulmate relationships are hard to find". This one is kind of like a self-fulfilling prophecy. What that means is that when you hear, say, and emphasize something enough, you believe it, and the outcome turns out just like you believed. In other words, if you think, believe, or say something is hard, your subconscious mind will make you perceive it as hard. This is not only true about soulmate relationships, but just about everything in life. In the case of soulmates, if you believe they are hard to find, your mind will literally make you blind to all the potential soulmates that are out there for you. You will most likely not even see them! So, realizing that out of the thousands of soulmates you are compatible with, meeting at least a couple is quite likely, is a great first step toward attracting your soulmate.
Trying to Find Your Soulmate? When Fantasy Meets Reality
Walk up to nearly any single adult and ask, "Would you like to find your Soulmate?" and more times than not the answer, without hesitation, will be "Yes!"
The dream that there is someone out there who is perfectly connected with and completes each one of us is certainly a romantic concept. Unfortunately, in the quest for "The One" who completes who we are, we seem to overlook some fundamental realities: The "other half" who fits perfectly with you will often share your background, your values, your beliefs - or some combination of these and more. Most importantly, your perfect match should - and will - enjoy many of the things in life that you enjoy too. Otherwise, the two of you will never be happy as a couple!
Let's start with an example...
There are those who offer advice to singles who will advise you to go to the gym after work to meet professionals who go there too. Or they may recommend volunteer work - or flirting in public with absolute strangers. What's striking about this type of advice is suggesting things that are not in your nature!
There's little point in joining a gym, if in fact you do not want to be there. Chances are that if you meet someone there at all, it will be someone who enjoys working out. But if you yourself do not, then this "common interest" may lead you nowhere.
If volunteering is just not your thing, why would you want to surround yourself with people who enjoy volunteer work? Wouldn't it be better to meet someone who shares an interest you sincerely have in common? Without passing judgment or attempting to fit a square peg into a round hole, why not start with some honest self-examination, so your social life as a single adult is in harmony with your true nature as a person?
The point is that if you're wanting to find your Soulmate, it would be best not to fake your way into someone else's life by pretending to have interests that are not really yours.
The truth is that none of us are really that "attractive" when we're doing something that's completely unnatural. So get involved with something you enjoy! It's far easier to make connections with others, and attract new friends and companions, when we are clearly enjoying what we're doing. The Internet is a wonderful resource for finding group organizations that cover every interest under the sun. See if there's an organization for your particular hobby where you will automatically meet others who share what you genuinely love!
Also keep in mind that just because the people around you may not be single, doesn't mean they don't have friends who are. Blind dates are, of course, an entirely different subject, but if you can meet a friend of a friend at a group event or a lunch, how can you go wrong with that?
As we all hope to find the perfect partner to accompany us through the rest of our lives, your first logical step should be doing something you love. The goal here is to meet people with whom you're genuinely compatible - and not necessarily singles - because people in relationships often know others who are looking and can make those introductions for you.
The key is to stop concentrating on trying to meet someone who's single, but instead concentrate on the things that make you happy. Do what you love - and new relationships will surely follow!
by Jay Reiss
The dream that there is someone out there who is perfectly connected with and completes each one of us is certainly a romantic concept. Unfortunately, in the quest for "The One" who completes who we are, we seem to overlook some fundamental realities: The "other half" who fits perfectly with you will often share your background, your values, your beliefs - or some combination of these and more. Most importantly, your perfect match should - and will - enjoy many of the things in life that you enjoy too. Otherwise, the two of you will never be happy as a couple!
Let's start with an example...
There are those who offer advice to singles who will advise you to go to the gym after work to meet professionals who go there too. Or they may recommend volunteer work - or flirting in public with absolute strangers. What's striking about this type of advice is suggesting things that are not in your nature!
There's little point in joining a gym, if in fact you do not want to be there. Chances are that if you meet someone there at all, it will be someone who enjoys working out. But if you yourself do not, then this "common interest" may lead you nowhere.
If volunteering is just not your thing, why would you want to surround yourself with people who enjoy volunteer work? Wouldn't it be better to meet someone who shares an interest you sincerely have in common? Without passing judgment or attempting to fit a square peg into a round hole, why not start with some honest self-examination, so your social life as a single adult is in harmony with your true nature as a person?
The point is that if you're wanting to find your Soulmate, it would be best not to fake your way into someone else's life by pretending to have interests that are not really yours.
The truth is that none of us are really that "attractive" when we're doing something that's completely unnatural. So get involved with something you enjoy! It's far easier to make connections with others, and attract new friends and companions, when we are clearly enjoying what we're doing. The Internet is a wonderful resource for finding group organizations that cover every interest under the sun. See if there's an organization for your particular hobby where you will automatically meet others who share what you genuinely love!
Also keep in mind that just because the people around you may not be single, doesn't mean they don't have friends who are. Blind dates are, of course, an entirely different subject, but if you can meet a friend of a friend at a group event or a lunch, how can you go wrong with that?
As we all hope to find the perfect partner to accompany us through the rest of our lives, your first logical step should be doing something you love. The goal here is to meet people with whom you're genuinely compatible - and not necessarily singles - because people in relationships often know others who are looking and can make those introductions for you.
The key is to stop concentrating on trying to meet someone who's single, but instead concentrate on the things that make you happy. Do what you love - and new relationships will surely follow!
by Jay Reiss
Using an Online Dating Coach to Find Love, Happiness... and even Find Your Soulmate!
In this age of technology, where you find yourself faced with more time-saving devices than ever - and are simultaneously busier than ever - it is gratifying to know that you have new resources available to help you find love... happiness... and even find your Soulmate.
Internet Dating is gaining in popularity and no longer holds the stigma it did even five years ago. Online dating and matchmaking services have become highly regarded as reliable ways to take the guesswork out of dating. For those who have concentrated heavily on their careers - only to find that with success comes less time for dating - online dating services have become an invaluable tool in helping singles meet like-minded others.
Want to Find your Soulmate? The Online Dating Coach to the Rescue!
As an added benefit to the convenience of online dating, clients can also receive the services of an Online Dating Coach or "Love Coach" as we're sometimes referred to by our clients. As a professional guide and consultant, a Dating Coach is now in demand by singles who are looking for guidance. Many professionals understand how important it is to describe the best parts of their personalities in writing - and this is where a Dating Coach can really help you shine!
An Online Dating Coach is an expert and will create an outstanding Online Dating Profile for you. There aren't many Online Dating Coaches in the world, but those who choose this profession are often talented - and even masterful - at creating a dating profile. The coach's talent will be crucial to the client who has a lot to offer in a relationship, but who just isn't skillful at putting his or her ideas down on paper.
An Online Dating Coach will typically conduct an initial telephone interview with you, asking you lots of very interesting questions. During the first coaching session, your dating coach will take a look at your personality. By asking you a series of personal and revealing questions and paying attention to how you reply, your coach will use this information to create a dating strategy just for you.
Be honest with your dating coach in expressing what you're looking for. In addition to describing your personality in your dating profile, your coach will help you be realistic in your search for a relationship. If you're an average-looking guy collecting unemployment benefits with three young kids at home, it's unlikely you'll be dating a world-famous supermodel - no matter how much you think you might want to.
But on the other hand, your coach will also help you achieve the best results possible. Often an average-looking man or woman can be made to look and sound much better than they might sound on their own, just by highlighting and accentuating their best qualities. Your coach will also help you write Letters of Introduction. This will benefit you in several ways - for one, your response rate to your dating matches will almost certainly increase, and you'll have access to more attractive partners.
As an emerging new category of personal coaching, the role of the Online Dating Coach will almost certainly expand over the next five to ten years. As Online Dating grows in popularity, so will the role of the Dating Coach in serving the needs of clients worldwide who flock to dating sites in search of their Soulmates!
by Jay Reiss
Finding your perfect mate ( Twin Flame soulmate )
Finding the Perfect Mate
People with some knowledge of the Zodiac ( astrology ) have a real advantage when it comes to finding their perfect mate.
For the simple reason that we humans are classified by a "sign" that tells a whole lot about our personality and it is easy to find out a person's birthday, and hence their sun sign.
Do you realize there are only twelve different signs in the zodiac so it is not hard to learn a few facts about each sign.
In fact, the easiest way to learn is to keep track of your friends and associates by sign, then before long you will know the eager beavers from the procrastinators.
Know the people who want everything "yesterday" versus the ones who have to plan ahead a few months, and those who never have a clean plate and are always behind in their work.
You can even know the people who are always late for appointments so you can set a date an hour early knowing they will be an hour late and just be on time for your timeframe.
There are nig spenders who always want to take you out
Then there are others who are frugal and never want to spend money.
Use this information to your advantage.
This is like having a prospective mate tell you what their "hot buttons" to attract them.
If you already know that their sign is impetuous and a free spender who accumulates stuff without concern about a budget, and wants everything right away, you can start dating and become their " social director."
A certain "fire" sign considers serious arguing as their form of communication. Fighting is simply their style and is not serious.
Are you beginning to get the picture that you can know a persons habits based on some features of their character.
You might be wondering how accurate this information really is and how you can become proficient at spotting these traits.
It is our purpose to keep it simple.
Show you how to recognize the 12 types.
Give you the signals for knowing them.
We have used this method in all our relationships and avoided Many mis-matches.
Astrology goes back 5,000 years.
Countries such as China and India have always used this science to match their children up matrimonially and have fewer divorces in their cultures because of the compatibility matching.
Certain zodiac types are more compatible with each other than others.
You may have noticed this fact over the years that you are better received by some people than others.
We have people who are warmer and more friendly towards us than others who seem to distrust us or just don't seem to like us.
Imagine if you knew in advance which potential mates were receptive and loving and compatible before being dated.
We would have eliminate a lot of quarrels and divorces.
You learn by observing and tracking who is what sign, and then what are their characteristics.
This is easy to do as there are only 12 signs, with a few commonalities.
For instance you can start with yourself and your immediate family, then branch out to your friends and work-associates then check their major characteristics against the zodiac features in the back of this book.
by Grant Darbyson
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
The 5 Reasons Why People Stop Believing Their Soul Mates Are Out There
Each and every time we break up our idea of a "soul mate" dies just a little. When we fall in love, we are convinced that we have found our one and only partner. However, when we break up, rather than admitting that we were mistaken about the identity of that person being our one and true love, it is easier to accept that such things are a myth. Also, if we are the person who was dumped, it is easier not to believe in them than to accept the fact that we were dumped by our possible soul mate!
The energy, time, and money we need to find a soul mate are enormous. Most of us do not have those resources to find them. Rather, we will tend to lower our standards and compromise on the best person we can find: "Mr/Mrs Right Now" rather than "Mr/Mrs Right". It will drive most of us crazy to realize the thought that we have committed our life to that one person who is not what they should be.
We know that we need to find and get that person but we feel it would be far too risky to sacrifice our savings or mortgage our house to buy a nationally run advert to find that one person. So, to reduce emotional distress and prevent possible financial risk, we abandon our beliefs about them being out there, and learn to live without that true love. Eventually, many of us will get tired of this "half-ass" or "practical" love and get divorced.
The presence of children can also "kill" the idea of us finding a true partner. Those of us with children will offer the excuse that we are "living for the children" and we will pour all of our attention and love into that bond rather than looking for the one person out there who can share the load.
If we don't have children or pets to look out for then our soul mate can become our job. Longer hours at the office, amongst our colleagues, seems to fill that hole in our lives. "Married to the Job" rather than "Married to the Mob"
So, break-ups, resources, risk, children and work are the five reasons for people stopping the belief that their soul mates are out there just waiting in the wings.
John H Valentine is an author of various articles on finding those one true partners we all know are out there. For more of John's "break ups" and "make ups" please follow this link: http://www.breakup-poems.weebly.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=John_H_Valentine
History of the Soul Mate Myth & Challenges in Soul Mate Marriages
The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
However, there are several viewpoints as to how to describe "soul mates" ... even on how to spell it! Some people spell the term as a whole word, soulmate and others, including us, prefer to keep it as two words, soul mate.
Soul Mate Descriptions
* Reincarnation: Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation.
The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
* Other Half: Others believe, like the ancient Greek philosopher Plato, that a soul mate is a person's "other half". This concept was the basis of the movie, "The Butcher's Wife" where the idea of "split-aparts" searching for one another was explored.
People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with.
* A dictionary definition is: One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.
Someone for whom you have a deep affinity . A person temperamentally suited to another.
* Predestination: The movie "Still Breathing" examines the thought that people are drawn together as soul mates by destiny or fate and that being with our soul mate is something we have no control over. This idea of predestination and connection even after death between soul mates was also examined in the movie "What Dreams May Come".
* Making Life Come to Life: Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "
* Profound Connection:Thomas Moore, in his book Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, page xvii, describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."
* Feeling at Ease With one Another: We don't believe a soul mate is the ideal or one and only person in someone's life. Our definition of soul mates is people who together want to work on making their marriage a great one. Their relationship feels like a natural fit, and although they need to work on their marriage, it is not hard to do. When soul mates first meet, there is an immediate sense of being at ease and connected.
* General Belief: Most believe that soul mates can accept and love every part of the other's personality and that life with a soul mate is easy and natural.
Soul Mate Challenges
Although you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times well, that may not always be the case. Just because they are in tune to one another, are each willing to take responsibility for their role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one -- the marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing.
Many people have probably already married their soul mates and simply don't realize it. The danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted.
If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won't be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment.
There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage because you think your spouse isn't your soul mate. If you think that marrying your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Searching For Your Soul Mate
Robert Johansen
If you are ready to go on a soul mate search, it means that you have been ready for a long time to find the one love of your life and to be happy. A soul mate search is a very romantic idea, because it means that you are going to be searching for that one person that you will be happy with for the rest of your life, the one person who you cannot live without. However, it might be a very long soul mate search, if you aren't sure what you are looking for.
When it comes right down to it, a soul mate search is going to be much easier if you have a better idea of what a soul mate is. Lots of people think that they know what a soul mate is, and they believe in the romantic notion of the fact that each person was created with another person in mind. Of course, this might be true. But it also might have a lot to do with body chemistry, and other things such as upbringing and beliefs.
Basically put, those that go on a soul mate search are looking for the one person that they can live with for their entire lives. There are lots of things that you should be looking for if you are going on a soul mate search and if you know them before you start, it will make your soul mate search a lot easier to complete.
First of all, a soul mate should be someone who finds you attractive. Of course, many people confuse this with the idea of lust. A soul mate is someone who might have those lusty feelings for you, but who will also find you attractive inside and out. This is someone who is going to be attracted to your body, your mind, your spirit, and everything else about you. This is an important point to clarify, because many people waste a lot of time during their soul mate search with the people who are simply in it for the lust.
Next, the person that you are looking for during your soul mate search should have a lot of things in common with you. Of course, it is always fun to be with someone who is completely different than you are, but in the end, having things in common is going to be a lot better than not having anything in common. This relates back to the lust factor again. After the lust wears off, there has to be something that you have that will tie you to the person you found during your soul mate search. If you don’t have anything in common, you might end up realizing that you have made a mistake during your search.
Another thing to remember is that often you won't find your soul mate right away during your soul mate search. You might have to look at a few people before you find the one that you are truly looking for. However, once you do, you will find out that nothing can be better
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