by Keishia Lee-Louis
Many people believe in love at first site. They believe that in an instant, they will know who they should be with for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations often end in divorce.
On the other hand, some couples spend 10 or 15 years getting to know each other before marriage. They'll live together, make major purchases, and even have children, before making a commitment to get married. Unfortunately, many of these marriages also end in divorce because even though they committed with their heads (and maybe even their hearts) the couple didn't know how to make a soul commitment.
Finally, some people go along being unhappily single. They desire to be married, but they find themselves playing games and dating without setting realistic personal goals for their future.
Maybe you're one of the people I've mentioned above. You're in a relationship (or your waiting for one), and you're wondering, "Is this it? Have I really found my soulmate?"
What if I told you that knowing your soulmate has more to do with knowing who you are and your level of commitment, rather than finding the "perfect match" to complete you?
I bring this up because I came across a book entitled Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? It made me think about how true soulmate relationships are formed: God prepares each individual and brings them to a point where their souls can effectively be knitted together for His purposes.
With this thought in mind, here are three ways for you to recognize your soulmate:
1. The communication between the two of you is transparent. "In his excellent book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?, John Powell describes the five levels of communication: cliche, fact opinion, emotion, and transparency."-- From Starting Your Marriage Right, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
Transparent communication means you and your partner can move beyond the cliches, facts, opinions, and emotions to a level where you are both vulnerable, but where truth prevails in your relationship. Transparency doesn't come quickly for most people, but when it does, freedom is not far behind. Transparency comes only with courage, nonjudgemental attitudes, and most importantly, trust. And this leads me to my next point.
2. You and your soulmate will trust each other completely. That means you don't have to wonder if your loved one is doing something inappropriate, without thought to your wellbeing, or without sound judgment. Trust comes when words and actions line up to form a coherent picture of the person you love.
3. You and your soulmate know the meaning of unconditional love. One may say, "Keishia, how can you believe in such a concept in this day in age? This kind of love never happens in real life." I'm here to say that it does. If you've read some of my other articles, you'll note all of the things that must be stripped from a person's character (selfishness, pride, and jealousy) in order to get there. We can't get there by our own will, but rather by God's grace and by understanding His nature. No matter how hard we try to do it in our own strength and conviction, leaning on divine intervention is the only way to rid ourselves of these three character flaws.
Ultimately successful soulmates aren't just born at some point in time or space to hook up by sheer coincidence. They are made over time to be with each other for a lifetime. If you're wondering where yours is, look inward and upward and you're bound to discover more than what you've seeking.
About the Author
Keishia Lee-Louis is the Editor of http://www.Married4Good.com (Launching November 2005). Her work has appeared on iVillage.com, BibleResourceCenter.com, and in numerous other publications. Currently, she is writing a book on marriage and relationships(Spring 2006). If you'd like to see more of her work, visit http://married4good.blogspot.com
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Soulmates how attraction works
by By Mabel Iam
When I find my soulmate Ill feel free. When our bodies come together, the pleasure well feel will be boundless. On that day my soul will recognize, at last, the other wing of love.
Union or reunion?
Two like souls will inevitably attract themselves like magnets, and although finding the ideal partner is said to be hard, we do experience this marvelous phenomenon at least once in our lifetime. In fact, the encounter usually takes place well before the actual discovery of the other individual. Normally, we have experienced this union unknowingly, because affinity is usually so subtle that our ego cannot recognize the presence of that other part of our being.
Levels of soul union
Each human being undergoes this marvelous event at different energy levels: 1. The first level is spiritual: This level is reached when soulmates are internally prepared to meet. Both parts feel utterly whole and if the union is spiritual, chances are that they will never part.
2. The second level is intellectual: The souls are compatible at the level of thought, they bear similarities and have common projects to share.
3. The third level is emotional: From the very first meeting, intense affinity and a feeling of having met before will take over. This is the level at which soulmates fall in love more easily. The surrender is complete and balanced.
4. The fourth level is physical or erotic: Physical surrender and boundless passion: during intercourse, intense and endless hugs and kisses will be shared and the physical contact will really make the two souls feel at home. At an erotic level, soulmates discover from the very beginning that their mate knows their body to perfection. They will caress and kiss as if they were one whole body and their encounters will seem to be taking place beyond space and time, because both feel that they are transported to a different dimension.
The sensation of freedom and flight while they make love is sublime, they will feel they can actually reach out for heaven. Without this last physical level, soulmates cannot really recognize each other as mates. This is because the other levels are related to unconditional love, which can manifest itself as a lasting friendship, or a special affinity between two people, and where a stable or unstable physical relationship is unnecessary. Personality traits, spiritual development or the knowledge each soul has of itself or the other will condition this type of bonding.
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About the Author
Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers in diffe
When I find my soulmate Ill feel free. When our bodies come together, the pleasure well feel will be boundless. On that day my soul will recognize, at last, the other wing of love.
Union or reunion?
Two like souls will inevitably attract themselves like magnets, and although finding the ideal partner is said to be hard, we do experience this marvelous phenomenon at least once in our lifetime. In fact, the encounter usually takes place well before the actual discovery of the other individual. Normally, we have experienced this union unknowingly, because affinity is usually so subtle that our ego cannot recognize the presence of that other part of our being.
Levels of soul union
Each human being undergoes this marvelous event at different energy levels: 1. The first level is spiritual: This level is reached when soulmates are internally prepared to meet. Both parts feel utterly whole and if the union is spiritual, chances are that they will never part.
2. The second level is intellectual: The souls are compatible at the level of thought, they bear similarities and have common projects to share.
3. The third level is emotional: From the very first meeting, intense affinity and a feeling of having met before will take over. This is the level at which soulmates fall in love more easily. The surrender is complete and balanced.
4. The fourth level is physical or erotic: Physical surrender and boundless passion: during intercourse, intense and endless hugs and kisses will be shared and the physical contact will really make the two souls feel at home. At an erotic level, soulmates discover from the very beginning that their mate knows their body to perfection. They will caress and kiss as if they were one whole body and their encounters will seem to be taking place beyond space and time, because both feel that they are transported to a different dimension.
The sensation of freedom and flight while they make love is sublime, they will feel they can actually reach out for heaven. Without this last physical level, soulmates cannot really recognize each other as mates. This is because the other levels are related to unconditional love, which can manifest itself as a lasting friendship, or a special affinity between two people, and where a stable or unstable physical relationship is unnecessary. Personality traits, spiritual development or the knowledge each soul has of itself or the other will condition this type of bonding.
http://www.mabeliam.com/
http://www.sexandtheperfectlover.com/ <
About the Author
Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers in diffe
The Soulmate Concept in Metaphysics
by Ashutosh Agnihotri
Astrology is a metaphysical science. The answers one would get from it comes from within a metaphysical framework of living. This must first be acknowledged before one applies its answers into ordinary living, such as the concept of love.
Life is about learning. Each individual soul would have set its own agenda for resolution and excellence. It has drawn up dramas to act out to achieve its betterment goals. And in many of these dramas, some scenes are designed best to be acted out with certain chosen actors already known; co-lead actors due to past chemistry or familiarity, or just because of previous working experience together.
Many of these genderless souls travel together through incarnational dramas, moving together forward, backward, and onward through time, just so they could learn together. Some kind of symbiosis bonds them into a learning group. They are driven to work together again and again, learning best when together, feeding power and purpose between each other, every time. They remind, goad, and share, empathically. These are soulmates. But sometimes, a soulmate may be the cause of challenges and pain, just as they can be our sweetest solution. Check out your 6th house of adversaries. They might be your major obstruction that can bring out the best in you.
A soulmate pushes you into betterment in areas you are not polished in, but must necessarily undergo for future excellence. It does that because you need to be reminded. Soulmates made an early contract to be there for each other, probably not to bail us out, but to be there to remind us of what more we can do. Soulmates do peer coaching.
The very people who have been a deep source of pain or joy, the very people who continue to be with you through thick and thin, these are your soul families, your soul mates, who have been with you through millennia. Look at them tonight when they sleep beside you, look with your inner eye, and reflect on what they have taught you. Open your understanding to the lessons they have taught you about yourself. See their purposes in your life and understand why they did what they did to you. Did you see the essentials behind the experiences and build new forward tracks, or did you just re-live the experiences and remained in the same spot?
You don't need to know your soul-mate that you think will take away all your pains and give you that elusive nirvanic joy. What you need is to work with the souls around you. These soulmates are real. Check their presence in your horoscope.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
Astrology is a metaphysical science. The answers one would get from it comes from within a metaphysical framework of living. This must first be acknowledged before one applies its answers into ordinary living, such as the concept of love.
Life is about learning. Each individual soul would have set its own agenda for resolution and excellence. It has drawn up dramas to act out to achieve its betterment goals. And in many of these dramas, some scenes are designed best to be acted out with certain chosen actors already known; co-lead actors due to past chemistry or familiarity, or just because of previous working experience together.
Many of these genderless souls travel together through incarnational dramas, moving together forward, backward, and onward through time, just so they could learn together. Some kind of symbiosis bonds them into a learning group. They are driven to work together again and again, learning best when together, feeding power and purpose between each other, every time. They remind, goad, and share, empathically. These are soulmates. But sometimes, a soulmate may be the cause of challenges and pain, just as they can be our sweetest solution. Check out your 6th house of adversaries. They might be your major obstruction that can bring out the best in you.
A soulmate pushes you into betterment in areas you are not polished in, but must necessarily undergo for future excellence. It does that because you need to be reminded. Soulmates made an early contract to be there for each other, probably not to bail us out, but to be there to remind us of what more we can do. Soulmates do peer coaching.
The very people who have been a deep source of pain or joy, the very people who continue to be with you through thick and thin, these are your soul families, your soul mates, who have been with you through millennia. Look at them tonight when they sleep beside you, look with your inner eye, and reflect on what they have taught you. Open your understanding to the lessons they have taught you about yourself. See their purposes in your life and understand why they did what they did to you. Did you see the essentials behind the experiences and build new forward tracks, or did you just re-live the experiences and remained in the same spot?
You don't need to know your soul-mate that you think will take away all your pains and give you that elusive nirvanic joy. What you need is to work with the souls around you. These soulmates are real. Check their presence in your horoscope.
About the Author
Dr Agni has been using astrology for 37 years and has taught astrology for free every week till today, since 1986. He is now advisor to the Institute of Astrological Science, Malaysia at http://astrologyuniversitymalaysia.com. He invites all friends of astrology to email him at rizabeg@gmail.com.
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